BF WANTS TO BREaK UP?

Question

i just found my bfs.. yahoo id.. and it says
how do i leave her without hurting her?
i been with this girl for over a year. we get into fights all the time. every time i try to break up with her she cries. i cant stand hurting her but i dont want to be with her. what to do?

and i found these questions that say.. is it wrong if i dance with other girls at clubs/ and she doesnt know.. and so many other question.. i GOT SO SAD... it really hurts..but he doesnt know i know yet.. i dont know how to tell himj.. i just want to call him by his yahoo ID name.and see if he will get the picture..what is a good way to approach him.. we were one of those unseparable relationship too...

Answer 1

Truth is, you must have been going behind his back for a reason. Did you know something was up and is that why you had to sneak into his email? Keep your cool. He already thinks you are overly emotional (based on his words, not mine...) Freaking out will not help. Try and avoid him for the next couple of days if possible so that you can really think this through. Remember to breathe. I think he's being really weak himself, but you being weak also will not help.

Answer 2

It hurts to find out that your signficant other isn't happy. But sometimes if you take the time to think about the situation you may realize that you are not actually that happy either. If you are happy and dont understand why he wants to split then just be honest. Tell him that you saw what he had posted on line and you werent aware that there was a problem. And just talk about it, dont be afraid to let him know that you know. Just dont get mad, start the conversation in a calm manner.

Answer 3

if a relationship does not work that is a tough one since i have been in splitsville with my ex and now again bf a couple of good times, yet i was in the same situation as you are, even worse. look, if he wants to call it quits so be it, but you can call it before him and beat him at his own game. it will be hard if you break up with him-really hard-but sometimes you need to break it off to take some time for yourself and realize what else i going on in my life. for ex. since my bf and i started to date at the beg. i neglected my friends, paid some but not really attention to my family and almost 9months later i had to start doing the things i missed out on like seeing my younger bro at swim meets and cheering him on, going out with my friend on a weekly basis and realizing how much i missed out in almost 9months. look, i am not God or anything but I am 22 and I have been in enough relationships where if the guy says something along the lines of what your bf is then he is tired of you and ready to move on and there is nothing you can do. break up with him, take time for yourself and actually figure things out: did he make you more happy than sad or vice versa.

Answer 4

well its nice that he doesn't want to hurt you in all but the fact is that he wants to leave you.to me that means he's leading you on.ask him is there a problem with your relationship and if he says no than say ok (yahoo i.d name)he will have to talk to you then.its gonna hurt.but hey truth hurts,but he needs to be honest with you.stay calm no matter what because men look at us like we are unstable when we express our feelings in a outrage.try to work it out.and if he still wants to leave than just let him go.if you truly are unseparable,he will come back to you.

Answer 5

If he wants to break up with you let him go , talk to him and see what he says, it wont work out if you try to hold on just to much hurt, more then there is now its hard but you have to do it

Answer 6

I thought the same thing, let him go with your heartfelt blessing, it is painful but it will not be a happy union if you try and hold on to someone who does not want you!