Hello!
First of all I am single and 30 years old.
I know I am not very attractive. But I have a good job, I am intelligent and I am kind, talkative and friendly.
I do really struggle to get dates though. Aatually I never get dates! If I go out with my friends its always them that women take an interest in and they dont really seem to show any interest in me at all. I never get those "looks" that other men sometimes get if you know what I mean.
I am not over weight and in actual fact my "body" is in very good shape. I also dress as best as I can so I do make the most of what I have!
But this does not seem to matter.
All of my friends are now married or in long term relationships and have families and I have to admit that this is really getting me down because I am now the only person out of my circle of friends that is single.
I am beginning to think that I will never meet anybody and I am usually a very confident person.
I dont want to live my life alone anymore
2006-10-03 14:00:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
You know you sound like a decent guy. Do you try to approach to woman? Because you did not mention at all. I mean what is the worst thing that can happen, ask them out. They can say no, but what the heck at least you try.
Here if you are an intelligent guy go to Barnes & nobles, there will be a lot of woman who are intellectual. Church is another good way of meeting decent woman. If you are working out, gym is another place you can meet woman. See what kind of woman you attract is all depends on what kind places you look for them.
Of course you need to take the first step and approach them. May be you are not that guy who pops out of the crowd and women get crazy over.So if you never step forward, how are women supposed to know you are there? Don't let this get to you. If you are confident and have good self-esteem, you will meet that perfect woman. After all there is somebody for everybody.
Good Luck!
2006-10-03 14:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Cilek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm well this is coming from a 14 yr old so I'll try my best to help. If i met a guy that was ugly but had a good job, intelligent, kind, and talkative i would go out with him(if he was my age). I dont know why u are still single... maybe its the kind of girls ur after...the snobby type but is really pretty. The best way to meet a girl is to go on vacation to a place you want ur girl to be from.. spain, france, mexico whatever and try ur luck in another country. That ALWAYS works. I know some ppl that didnt find anyone here but went out of state and ended up getting married within a year. try it. keep ur confidence level high or else girls will notice and then will think u are a looser and then really wont ever try u. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-03 14:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by laylay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks are only worth 10 points in the long run . . . personality is worth 90.
1) avoid bars and other alcohol environments . . . the people are shallow & quite retarded.
2) take classes about activities you like or join an organizaton and try and meet women who would be compatible. and remember,
Charles Bronson wasn't conventionally attractive but his demeanor made him super sexy.
( Ignore the GQ models, they are as realistic as the 6 ft, 99 lb models they use in womens mags )
2006-10-03 14:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by kate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you should do anything but to have a wonderful personality, but dont let anyone take advantage of you. Dont be too desperate, we as women can smell that, so I think that you should take your time. Dont let anyone tell you that you are too old and that it is time for you to get married. Take your time and remain confident I am sure that there is someone out there for you.
xoxoxoxoxxo
2006-10-03 14:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by gm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheer up man! You seem to be in the same course as me! At the end, you will get a great chance to show off. Be ready for that and do good maintenance of your things (actually, thing, that's what I want to mean!). Cause you are gonna get a great woman. (You dont need to find her, she will find you)
2006-10-03 14:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends you say you take care of your body how about your face do you shave. Are you funny? Most women are suckers for funny men cuz they arent boring to be around. whatever it is im sure youll find her somehow. but remember DONT LOOK FOR LOVE LET LOVE FIND YOU. if you were meant to find her then just be patient and be yourself. Good luck
2006-10-03 14:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by Cynthia S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm told being able to make girls laugh, and laugh consistently, is supposed to be very attractive to women.
So is being confident. And if you're looking for a hook-up, beat the rush and go ugly early....
2006-10-03 14:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking the right girl just hasn't come in to your life yet. The key is: don't look for her, she'll find you. I'm sure when she does, the wait will be worthwile for you. Love always finds a way. =)
2006-10-03 14:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Develop a GREAT Sense of humor...that is what attracted me to my husband, and as far as I'm concerned he's a HOTTIE...but LOVE is blind... don't give up, you'll find the right girl for you!
2006-10-03 14:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people i know who have your problem are looking out of their league. because you are ugly, try finding a girl who is also "ugly." you two can make each other extremely happy and fall in love. but if you try to find a very attractive girl, you most likely won't end up hitting it off with her. face it: she doesnt want you.
2006-10-03 14:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by King 0f N0 Pantz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋