to him anymore. I'm only attracted to very few men. What is wrong with me?
2006-10-03 13:30:40 · 22 answers · asked by bobbie jo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is okay to masturbate. If you are not attracted to your husband anymore, then this is a problem with your marriage. I'm a married man who masturbates and my wife knows I do. She's tired a lot because she gets up at 4:00 am to go to work. She is not always in the mood for sex. Don't feel bad about masturbating. Enjoy yourself. If you have a problem with your husband, then maybe you need to address that. Good luck.
By the way, you should try masturbating together with your husband. Me and my wife do that, each masturbating in bed in front of each other and it is a huge turn on. It could start something new for you and your husband.
2006-10-03 14:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Variety is the spice of life my dear....try something different and unusual. If you are stuck in the same old routine, try doing something different like sex in a different place, maybe outside, maybe someplace with a risk of getting caught or maybe, you want to get caught just for the fun of it. Try bringing home a book like "101 Sexual Positions" and reading it while he reads the paper, when he notices, tell him you would like to try a new position every day for the next 101 days. If that doesn't work, try hitting him upside the head with the book. You just need to let him know that you need more than what you are getting from him. I'm sure if he is a healthy red blooded American male, he will heed the call!
If that doesn't work, you can always give ol' Colonel Angus a try! Colonel Angus might be rough.. Colonel Angus might not smell like a bed of roses.. but, deep down.. Colonel Angus is very sweet.
2006-10-03 20:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by Colonel Angus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but as women get into their thirties things change with hormones and sex drive. It could just be that. Ask your doctor, maybe he can help. Maybe you could involve your spouse in the masturbation, and that would probably improve things a bit. Sometimes, you just have to go with it sex-wise and once you're in the groove it's ok. Talk to him about how you feel. It's probably not him, it's all men that you've lost interest in, but it doesn't mean you like women, right?! Maybe he will be supportive and helpful.
2006-10-03 20:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be different things. I suggest you try getting a physical. I felt nearly the same way after two kids and 18 years of marriage. I found out that I needed a hysterectomy due to tumors and cysts. They were not cancer - but they changed my body chemistry. I now take hormone supplements and my sex drive is better than ever.
2006-10-03 20:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that a lot of women go through this phase and can sometimes last for years but don't let that get you down. I would suggest seeing your family physician for some advice. It could be something hormonal or perhaps a mental block of some sort and maybe some individual counseling would help. Good luck!
2006-10-03 20:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Bill B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl sex is a mental thing too. For whatever reason if your mind aint with it, you dont want to get it. maybe he just cant please you. Maybe you've been through a lot in your marriage and one of you has changed, or there's been some trouble, or maybe you dont love him anymore. Either way, he's feeling some rejection I imagine so it's time for you two to talk. If you feel like you have a physical/hormonal problem, have your testosterone checked.
2006-10-03 20:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by leah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's probably nothing wrong with you. Do you still love him? Are other aspects of your marriage going OK? Some people just don't like sex that much. For them fantasizing and masturbating can be satisfying enough. If he keeps asking for sex and you keep turning him down it will probably cause problems in your marriage.
2006-10-03 20:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY are you not attracted to him? Is it physical or emotional? Do you have a high sex drive? You need to give more info in order to know if there is something "wrong" with you!
2006-10-03 20:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing it is just a phase you are going trough. Why don't you talk to him and let him know with kind words how you feel... Maybe he can win your love and affection again by modifying some thing or going back to step one. If he is not willing to change then move on. God Bless, EFIl
2006-10-03 20:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going to a therapist, talk about it with a professional, you may not be attracted to him because you just dont love him anymore. Or you maybe going through something personal that is affecting you
2006-10-03 20:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋