Married 1 year to my bestfriend and the last 2 years of it to ..... He has become very insecure, jealous, withdrawn & depressed. He doesn't trust anyone-even God. He continually self-medicates to get away. He will not believe anything I tell him about having faith, that I am devoted to him & that he is needed in the world. He has bad dreams everynight about me & looks at me mean. He woke up one night and slapped me. He gets more negative by the minute. I find it hard to focus on myself, my daughter & all his insecurities. I wish he would seek help but he won't. He told me that I made him marry me (I didn't think I did) & that our life is too much for him. But we have a 3 bedroom house (was a gift), a child, a loving God centered family, money in his pocket every week & so much more . I sacrifice & ask for only love in return. Nothing is ever enough for him. I need help, support & a friend. He was honestly my bestfriend before all this. He was a man to be envied. He made me proud.
2006-10-03 13:24:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get out now there is no way you can change him only he can change himself and it sounds like hes not trying to do this right now you know the saying you never no what you have till its gone so make him realize that now you are gone
2006-10-03 13:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by lisaisfunn1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the material "things" you've mentioned doesn't buy love. Your statement that he said "You made him marry you" doesn't sound good. For someone to say that leads me to believe that he is not truly in love. For your sake your child's sake I believe your best bet is terminate your marriage. This doesn't sound like a man I would want to be married too or raising my children. It sounds as if your in love and while love is great the feeling must be mutual! If you're unsure of what to do then I would suggest individual counseling to help you through this for yourself and your child's sanity and safety!
2006-10-03 13:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bill B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he self medicate? Is he clinically depressed? See a doctor as it sounds like it. No one can just turn insecure for no reason at all, especially if he was fine before.
2006-10-03 13:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a doctor to rule out a physical reason for his change of personality. If his health is OK, you need to separate until he goes for counseling. If he has already slapped you after waking up, he's also dangerous. Move fast.
2006-10-03 13:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart if u'r husband is telling you that u made him marry u then i think it's clear that he doesn't want to be in a marriage with u anymore....what made him get this way...he sounds really cold right now and he shouldn't be hitting u.
2006-10-03 13:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by bigflirt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new friend... They are a dime a dozen !!
Some friendships just need to move on...
: )
2006-10-03 14:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋