ok so im a 32 yr old male that is single.. i havent had sex in over 10 yrs and dont care to... i havent had a girlfriend in that same amount of time... i love being alone living in solitaire.. im not very sociable.. except when im at work of course.. i have a great sense of humor thow.. i love to laugh.. but why dont i persist on having a relationship... and why do i love to be alone so much... so tell me am i strange...
2006-10-03 13:22:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No you aren't strange at all. In my opinion you should consider yourself lucky. Often times when people get to that point they end up finding someone else like them and they usually hook up. I think it is great that you don't have to go looking for something in other people because you have obviously found it in yourself. There is nothing wrong with being alone and wanting to be alone. I say ... good for you!!
2006-10-03 13:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be exactly like that too, but have changed over the years, to a certain extent, because I wanted too and found a way to do it. I started my first ever relationship at the beginning of this year, and I am 47. I too have a great sense of humour.
I did a lot of reading in the area of psychology to find out why I was such a loner and recluse. At first I thought I had a 'Schizoid Personality Disorder' but later determined that I had 'Aspergers Syndrome'. Some experts believe that the two disorders are identical - the personality disorder psychologists and the autism researchers had been giving different names to the same disorder.
Look up 'Aspergers Syndrome' and 'Schizoid Personality Disorder' on the internet to see if you have the symptoms.
Even though these are officially classed as mental disorders, if you are happy about being the way you are, there is no need to be concerned about it or to seek to change it.
If you want to change it, I would recommend you find a psychotherapist or psychologist who specialises in 'object relations' therapy (you can look that up on the internet too). I have found that the Asperger Syndrome experts have little to offer adult sufferers beyond telling us that we need to learn social skills and to fake normality.
2006-10-03 20:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by Marakey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound fairly normal to be. I am 36 and never had a relationship longer than a month. Apart from work, buying a little food, and going out to the garden occasionally, I'm kind of a hermit. As long as you don't feel bad, that's what matters.
2006-10-03 20:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,you're not strange. Good for you, living the life you want to live,and not being influenced by people telling you to get married, go out more, and all that stuff. Keep on doing what makes YOU happy
2006-10-03 20:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the hassle and crap that comes with relations isn't worth it.
If you want sex, there is ways of doing that all by yourself.
Some people are not made for relationships and are happier on their own.
No its not strange...Its your choice if it makes you happy..enjoy your peace and quiet. Thank about how much you will save on Tylenol, EPT Test and Christmas Gifts.
2006-10-03 20:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're strange at all. You are content to be alone and it take a very mature person to be able to be by themselves and be happy. But please be careful that you don't turn into a hermit. Living with a phobia would not be fun at all. Also, maybe you are inwardly waiting for that 'right' person and you just haven't met her yet. You might be waiting for a spark, a spark that will lite your fire.
2006-10-03 20:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by jantanet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I do not think you are weird. Some people are just loners. Your birth date determines a lot of predestined characteristics. I research a lot of astrology, and metaphysical concepts and often times believe it or not things actually are written in the stars. What is your birth date??
2006-10-03 22:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you! you are enjoying your own company and your job gives you compassion or some element in your job does.. or your giving youself it! i still think it's your job!
there's a steriotype for people like you!
a loner!
I was a loner all threw most of my life and i'm in my late 20's but i found some one who i connected with 100% never thought it would happen to me but it's here and it's great! and i still get my alone time when i want it!
so your not too strange... loners are not all common but common enought to have a name for it!
so no worries
Mad luv
2006-10-03 20:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all different. The best thing in ur life is, u know what u like n waht u want! so why should u do the stuff u odnt feel comfortable in. U r normal... dont think about that..just enjoy ur life, enjoy the way it is :))))))))))
2006-10-03 20:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ingaude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not strange if you are happy with your life.
I like a lot of alone time too and I get crabby if I don't have enough of it.
2006-10-03 20:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋