How do I tell my husband that I think that I have feelings for someone else other than him?

Answer 1

You don't!
Feelings for someone is nothing. It happens often, is fleeting,and if you tell your spouse, it will turn into this big thing when it isn't a big thing. Just like you would not understand if he confided this in you, he will have a problem with it.

I had feelings for someone else for a long, long time, and wrestled with my conscience about telling my spouse. I'm glad I didn't, because suddenly it became very clear to me that it was very one-sided, and I had read more into it than was really there and I had to walk away to get out of the grip of it all. I'm glad I didn't tell. I was able to get back to the way things were supposed to be and I feel a lot better.

Answer 2

The word "feelings" is such a broad term, by that I assume you are physically attracted to someone else. First of all, I think you need to ask yourself whether you are truly in love with your husband. If the answer is yes, then whoever else you have physical feelings towards, well, you need to end those ties unless it's unavoidable i.e. someone at work, etc. You're always going to see someone else that you're physically attracted to but that in no way can compare with true love. If you are not in love with your husband then I would suggest a divorce and as badly as this may hurt him and yourself emotionally going through it, it would be better off for you both in the long run so you can both pursue a meaningful relationship with the person that is right for yourselves. You shouldn't stay in a non-existent relationship that will never go anywhere but exist. If you need help in determining your feelings then perhaps you should try individual marriage counseling and go from there. Good luck!

Answer 3

however you tell him will be devistating to him. just as if he came home one day and told you he had feelings for someone else.

Have you thought long and hard about these feelings you have and what brought them up. are you having problems in your own marriage or he doesn't pay attention to you and now some new guy come along and he's all peaches and cream. remember that doesnt' last for ever either. could just be your lacking excitment and you miss feeling that butterfly feeling you use to get with him . and now some other guy is doing this for you. I would really think to yourself what this is really about before opening up and saying i care for someone else now. You can say something like that then take it back later. Be sure what it is your feeling is the real thing. and not just cause something missing in your life .

Answer 4

Be honest. Lying to him that the relationship is in perfect condition is not a good idea.

There must be a lull in the marriage, and now the excitement of someone new feels like a good option to you. IF you want the marriage to last, you need to tell him so you both can make the relationship work for both of you. IF you have mentally left the marriage, then why cause him more pain. Cheating on someone is just not fair.

Answer 5

You're crazy if you think this is never going to happen - you and your husband need to discuss that at times there will be crushes and flirtations - and at times feelings - for other people. Just because you are married doesn't mean you will not be drawn or attracted to others, that's unrealistic. Now, depending on if you have acted on your emotions and where you want to head depends on what you need to discuss with your husband. If you just have feelings but do not want to end your marriage maybe don't get into specifics....if you do want to end it - - make sure you do so BEFORE acting. Have respect for the man that you once promised your life to. :) Good luck - it seems to be a tough situation!

Answer 6

Most of the time, action speak louder than words. In your case, be prepared for the consequences of your action, this spells trouble and your marriage is at risk. Do you think you will be able to go on with your life just in case your husband left you? If your answer is no, forget those sillly ideas . There's hundreds of better things to do , so why trade yourself with unworthy ideas. Your family is worth more than that.

Answer 7

If you have a good, loving relationship with your husband, you need to be honest with him about this before you do something with this other person. If you tell him what's going on, and if he trusts you, he will understand. He will give you space, and time, to figure out what exactly is going on in your mind (or heart), and let you decide on your own. My husband and I went through this last year. It was a rough couple of weeks, but we got through it. If you plan on acting out on your feelings, PLEASE leave him first. Not for love, but out of respect. When you cheat, you don't respect your spouse, or their feelings anymore.

Answer 8

You "think you have feeling for someone else". Give it time and give your husband a fair chance.Do not say anything to him about it. In time I hope you realize that you were just looking at someone that wasn't who you thought they were. Usually that is the case anyway. We always want more than we can have.

Answer 9

Dont tell your husband.because it will only cause hurt.Wait until you leave and see if you still have feelings for this other person.My bet would be that he wont have any feelings for you.People always want what other people have until they get it and then they they dont want it anymore.

Answer 10

Do like them...NEVER, EVER TELL. What if you tell him and then your feelings change? Now you have to live with it forever because they wont ever forget. They can get busted red handed and still lie. Don't tell. Leave if you need to.