My brother is acting wierd...?

Question

My brother is acting weird when he goes to sleep at night he locks the door and doesn't open it 'till like 12 in the afternoon on woeekends and on weekdays he is usually late cuz he doesn't opne his door 'til 8:00 A.M and school starts at 8:30 and he has to take a shower and stuff. He also makes load noises at night and he doesn;'t sleep at all at night I know this because I hear him fooling around. He's only 14 why is he acting like this?? Any advice on why he's doing that? My dad wants to talk to him but he justr says I'm going to go do hoomework an he stays there the rest of the night. And he can't be doing homework because he's getting bad grades on his tests. He's also taking a razor to his room and when I checked his room the other day I saw blood on the floor. He's always in there. Do you think he's cutting himself? Advice needed please. Do you think he's mental? He also like asks my dad for a gun to buy for him and stuff.

He has this D.A. on his hand that looks like it was carved by a knife. That's his initials, he's also thinking of getting a tatoo so any advice?

He's not goth or emo he's gangster I've seen his friends they all sag and wear long short sleeve shirts. He doesn't have many cuts but he has one of D.A on his hand I've seen it so if you guys can give me a clue about that please tell me.

Answer 1

This does not sound good at all. It sounds like you have very good reasoning for what you're considering may be going on. I'm proud that your dad knows, and I'm proud that you're concerned enough about him to post this question, and dear friend, my advice to you would be intervene...get SOMEONE to talk to him, and don't let him escape to his room with just a simple excuse. If he is cutting, it's a compulsive behavior, and it might not be the only thing he's thinking about doing. his grades dropping and the antisocial behavior leads me to believe he could be in a state of SEVERE depression and if so, people in that situation feel hopeless. You and your parents need to go together and get him some help....better an upset brother than an injured one....there are many options for him, sometimes it just takes the jumpstart made by those who love you to realize that it's not hopeless.....i'm proud of you and hang in there!!

Answer 2

It may be worth talking directly to him,, you see I am a 16 old guy No father and I only have a sisiter to really talk to! when i was around his age, which was really only a couple of years ago I was really concerned about hair growing down there and waking up with erections that wouldnt go down,, I didnt have anyone to talk to so I stayed in my room until morning. At the time I didnt know what jerking off was and I never had sperm come out so it was real confusing! If you are his older sister you can try to speak to him easily, because it is embarissing! anyway you can send me an email and I will tell you how I got passed that stage,, now i have bigger problems,, maybe you can help! Tks bobby

Answer 3

It's complicated question, but sure something is terribly wrong....maybe he just entered hard years of puberty but it might also be something more serious. Do you have any mental illnesses happening in familly? Why I ask, coz they are mostly geneticly transfered. Your parents and you should have a lot of patience with him! Maybe something happend to him that he is hiding. If you find more marks as a result of him cutting himself, you can be sure that it's some repressing happening in his mind and is surly mental. My fiancee sufferes from schizoaffective disorder and he also had a period (loong time ago) of cutting himself - i didn't know him then so i can't say any details related to it. By that time he was very depressed as well, so it could be that your brother is too. But google it, maybe you find some facts that you can connect with behavior of your brother. However, it would be good to consult some psychologist and explain what is happening, maybe he would have some better clue how to start helping him. Hope everything goes fine! Good luck!

Answer 4

Yea D.A. thing might not be self mutalation per say for depression, possibly gang member affiliation type thing. Sorry for sterotyping, but which sterotype isnt 85% accurate? Thats another issue, anyway yea, possible explainations for the gun thing, suicidal, joking, or may use it for gang type activities.

Suicidal shouldnt be ruled out, whats your with a gang its really hard to get out, dying possibly being the only visable way for help. I dont know him, i can just put input from what I know from people around me and myself.

A solution really cant be done soley by yourself, adult intervention might be the best thing to do. Where it be your father or otherwise.

Answer 5

It sounds like your brother needs help. Tell Dad to bust down the door and see what is going on in the bedroom. If your brother is cutting himself, he will probably have cuts and scars on his arms and legs. Does he wear long sleeves when it is warm enough to wear short sleeves?

Did you tell your dad that you saw blood on the floor? If not, please do it now. I hope your dad is smart enough not to buy the gun for him. Who knows what he will do with it.

Your brother needs help. Please encourage your dad to get your brother the help that he needs. A therapist would be a good start. Perhaps family counseling.

Answer 6

tell your parents! your dad sounds just as concerned as you are, so you need to talk to him and tell him about the razor and blood. your brother needs to see a therapist or sometrhing, act whuile you can before you seriously hurts himself. if your mistaken and hes not cutting himself, its much better to be safe than sorry, especailly in a life threatening situation. also try to be kind to your brother, act more like a friend. hopefully he'll talk to you or at least value your company and hopefully he won't be depressed or suicidal if he knows hes loved and understood.

Answer 7

Definetly sounds like some type of depression. Your dad reaaly needs to be told this and have him checked out by a doctor.

Answer 8

i've done all that stuff. hiding, carving my skin, everything. and when people tried to talk to me, especially family, it didnt help me. io hated it. i got over it by working my problems out by myself. it gives you a boost of self-confidence so you can be like 'hey, i'm not a total pointless loser. i CAN do something.'
do what you want. some people do need to talk to others. family usually arent good. understanding friends are best. and psychs can freak some people out and make them think they're really f*cked up.
ask him about it, and ask if he wants to talk, and if he doesnt just let him know he has your support.

Answer 9

I would really get him help.if he is cutting himself and wants a gun that sounds very scary.Yes i would get him help he probably is not mental but this could be very bad if he doesn't talk to somebody even if it is your dad he needs help.

Answer 10

he could be joining a Gang of some sort.. None here really can answer this problem on yahoo answers but i suggest you seirously think about talking to him before you tlak to your dad and then if it dooesn't works, talk to u r dad. You culd prune the prblem before it becomes a big problem.