I sometimes fantasize about men but have never done or been done by a man am I gay.I like women .well I like their bodies but hate talking to them most of the time.I am also very feminine sometimes.I have had sex with girls and it was fun but not as exciting as i had thought it had been in my mind what am I.only helpful answers please
2006-10-03 12:59:50 · 29 answers · asked by Patrick 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
You do sound pretty gay, but with some attraction to women as well. I think it's something for you to discover for yourself.
2006-10-03 15:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Patrick
Your feelings are normal and many guys deal with understanding their sexual identity. In the end, you are the only one who can truly decide what your sexuality, but I do have some insight for you.
When I was first dealing with my gay feelings, I labeled myself to be "bisexual". A lot of gay men go through this phase. They rationalize their feelings but saying they "like women" the same way you did.
But if you don't have a genuine attraction to women, and a sexual desire to be with them, then you are most likely gay. If you are gay, then you will find that you are sincerely attracted to men, both physically and emotionally.
It's hard to say on the bisexual part. I've never met a true bisexual man. I am sure they exist, but I don't know any. Every man who has ever told me he's bi later comes to me and says "Okay, I admit it, I'm gay. I have no desire to be with a woman."
Whatever you are, it's the way you were born and the way you were meant to be. Don't be scared off by labels. Decide how you truly feel inside and accept it one day at a time :)
As far as being straight... well recent studies have shown that at least 10% of men, who identify as straight, have had sex with another man in the last 12 months. That's 10 Percent! That doesn't even include men who lied, or men who are actually gay.
Point being, humans are naturally curious creatures. I'm 100% gay, and I can still say that some women are attractive. I don't want to have sex with them, but I do understand when they are beautiful.
Sexuality is a complex thing, but over time I know you will understand your true self. Good luck.
2006-10-03 20:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well your avatar looks gay. kidding.
Have you ever masturbated to a guy giving it to ya or you receiving it? have you ever stuck your finger or anything else in your rear end? and moreso, enjoyed it? if yes then you're either bisexual or gay trying to be straight.
Guess you just desire a lil prostatic stimulation.
Looking at other guys doesn't mean you're gay. I look at women all the time and i know for sure i'm not gay or have no gay tendencies. I have worked at womens clinic for a while and trust me, I am not gay.
But i do look at women and say yeah she's pretty but that's where it stops. so if you're doing that then it's not being gay but going past that level into sexual fantasies is showing some bisexual or gay tendencies.
only you will know in the end.
2006-10-03 20:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex in real life is rarely ever as exciting as our fantacies. That does not mean you are gay. Fantasizing about having sex with men is probably a good indication. The fact that you have had sex with women could mean that you are bisexual or that you are suppressing being gay.
2006-10-03 20:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who knows what you really are. Straight men may have fantasies that involve men but they never act on it. I guess it all depends on whether or not you act on it in the end. Maybe you should go to a gay bar a little out of town and see what goes on. See how you feel. If you decide this is what you want then there ya go. I say to go out of town so that you are not nervous about people seeing you there and labeling you before you have made your decision.
2006-10-03 20:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all u're a guy and u have guy thoughts all of us go through it except the Amish maybe u should try an expiriment such as going to a club for guys that like guys(i don't like labels) and see how u feel about them if u don't u may think u're self as gay and label u're self like most but if u do go u'll never wonder again and u should be happy with u're choice. by the way im 12 1/2 booyah
2006-10-03 20:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lil olD mE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me myself as a female also fantasize about the opposite sex and believe me sex with men isn't as fun as it used to be. I get confused myself as to what my preference is. Sex is a funny thing and I think that whatever turns you on is what turns you on. I don't think that life and sex are choices that we make for ourselves. Enjoy what you have and how you feel. As long as you are comfortable with your way of life let that be it. And I wish you happiness.
2006-10-03 20:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is bisexual. They are just in denial.
I don't think I am bisexual or gay but I look at more woman that I do men. I admire their beauty and sexiness. I would be with a woman but I don't label it as bi or gay...its just an experience.
Why label it.
2006-10-03 20:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? If you find someone that you are attracted to and want to be with, does it matter what sex, race, religion, age, etc.? Our society places to much emphasis on labels. Just go with it, if you find a man you fall for then so be it, if it is a woman you fall for, so be it. As long as you are happy, nothing else should matter.
2006-10-03 20:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by tollerx2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur normal
u fantasize bout men because u are curious
u hate talking to women cause they are bi-a-tches
dont think of that as a drag and live ur life
2006-10-03 21:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋