it's been little over six months and my heart aches as if it was the next day of her death. i miss her madly. we were very close. i took care of her. also i'm no longer close with my siblings. i tried to reach out to them but they told me that can't deal with me right now, in so many words. i'm hopelessly lonely! help me.
2006-10-03 12:43:43 · 7 answers · asked by Sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry for your loss. My mother died when I was in my early teens, but she had been ill for a long time, and so I had a bit of time to prepare for it. However, when her death really came, I discovered that I wasn't half as prepared as I thought I was. What really got to me was my father's sudden death a bit later, as it was quite unexpected. I'm not sure what to say, other than that it really has become easier to cope with after the passing of time. Again, my condolences.
2006-10-03 12:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by solarius 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, how long it takes to stop grieving for a parent whom you love dearly all depends on the person. I have not lost a parent and I am not going to pretend that I know what you are going through. My mother and I are very close and if I lost her, I know that it would feel as though a big chunk of my life had been taken away. There is nothing in the world like a mother, and you only have a mother once. The only encouragement I can give you is to take a moment alone and contemplate on all the wonderful times you two had together. She lives in your memory of her.
2006-10-03 12:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Winter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss!
If you want to know the truth, you'll never "get over" it, because you loved your mother, and love is something everlasting. The best you can do is give it a little time, and recall the good times, and keep her in your memory. That will definately help.
Someone to talk to about her passing would be a very good thing for you, and since your siblings do not want to talk about it, I would advise seeking counseling. If you can't afford it, try seeking counseling at a church. They offer very cheap- or no- cost counseling.
And please don't stop talking with your siblings. Her passing has affected them greatly as well, and they clearly grieve differently than you do.
Some people grieve better by not talking about it, and some grieve better when they can talk about it.
When my grandparents passed away a few years ago, my aunt and my mother stopped talking for a while because my aunt couldn't stand to talk about it. (To tell you the truth, she still can't speak of it to this day.) And while my mother still cries and her heart still aches, she always keeps their memory fond by remembering them and looking through old photo albums.
That might also be something you would want to look into; creating a photo album with pictures of your mother in it, so you can look back and remember her whenever you feel like it.
If you ever need to talk, feel free to e-mail me. And believe me, it will get better with time. It will never, ever go away, and you will never, ever be "over it," but it will get better. <3 Best wishes.
2006-10-03 12:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Awesomeness!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my Dad almost 3 years ago, and you never get over it. Sometimes I look at a picture of him and just start sobbing. Sometimes something comes up in a conversation and it reminds me of him and I cry. My mom is still alive and I live over 400 miles from her, and at times I cry for her cause I miss her so much and I can't afford to go see her.
So I don't think you will ever get over the loss of your mom, honey, but in time it will get a little easier.
If you belong to a church, talk to a member of the church. I was lucky, I have 9 bros. and sis. and 4 children and we are pretty close, but we did drift apart right after Dad passed on, but we are getting closer again.
God bless you, honey, and I am sorry about your loss. Sincerely
2006-10-03 17:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by nevada nomad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your loss. You never get "over" it ....My father died when I was 17 and my brother was 10. It's been years and we still think about him. What time does is replace the hurt and pain with the good memories. When we think about him now, it's because we remember something funny he did, or how he'd react to certain situations. You'll never stop thinking about her, but the memories that come to mind will be less painful as more time goes by. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other - it WILL happen. Unfortunately, time is the only thing that will help you.
2006-10-03 13:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by earthlove32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never get "over" the death of a parent. I lost my mother a year ago, and so many things remind me daily of her. All I can suggest for you is to honor her in your life, but branch out from your pain. Keep her teachings and your memories close at heart and use them to enlighten your gloom. She is with you. The love that binds you is forever, and you will slowly, but surely, overcome the grief and be able to be stable again.
If it is too much to bear alone, find grief counselling- it really will help.
2006-10-03 12:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by mrschrisbennett 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you will ever really get over it. If you have no one to talk to. go see a counselor.
2006-10-03 12:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ ltlsunny ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋