My ex husband of 5yrs now,I was with sence I was14,For 10yrs and had a daughter with him.Now he is with this girl that just turned 18,He's been with her for about 4yrs scence she was14,and he just turned 31! I don't understand how I could still love him so much.I miss him thou and all's I want is him.How do I get him back?
2006-10-03 12:19:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Rosey, How can you still love a man who seems like all he wants is little girls for a lover. It appears a repeat of you at the age of 14, when he gets tired of this one she will be gone. Could it be pride that makes you feel as if you love him? We never want to lose someone we love, but for goodness sake this man is sick to choose little girls and need to seek help for his problem. Try moving on with your life and if that doesn't work seek help for yourself to figure out why you would choose men who act this way.
2006-10-03 12:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, off the bat this does not sound like a healthy relationship. You are WAY too young to be married for 5 years.
I am sure that the love you have for this man is incredible, but you are still very young and you will have more loves in your life.
The mental and physical development during the age of 14 and 24 is huge, and you have so much more to go. It is very difficult to find someone that will grow with you and maintain the bonds that were originally there.
Looking back at who you were at 14, what was important to you and what you wanted in life are/should be very different to what they are now. The same should be said for your ex. Trying to make a marrage work is hard enough, but with the possible difference in you basic values and general state of mind, you guys didn't have a chance.
The fact that he is dating a 18 year old makes me think that he hasn't matured very much, and needs someone younger than him to relate to. He could be a real jerk and got tired of the same ol' thing, or you got "too old" for him, maybe he wants someone young and dumb so he can control them. Best case senaro, you just grew apart.
I say move on, there is no way you can grow in this relationship. And since he has moved on, there is no point waiting for him to change his mind.
You NEED to date and interact with other people to develop into a social adult. Being in a relationship for that long had to have slowed down your development. Work on being independent, take care of your little one and see what a great big (albeit scary) world it is and enjoy. Don't let this man, or any other man, define or tie you down.
2006-10-03 19:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by rnscrappyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop, drop, and role. That is what you would do if you were on fire right. Well, you do not need this guy so put the fire out. You probably feel this way because you told yourself since you were 14 that you needed him. Look at what you said. He was unable to find another women so he had to find a girl to mold into liking him. So just like stop, drop and role. Put that old 14 year old crush out of your mind. Your a women now, who is better then the same old looser!
2006-10-03 19:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by rangerhonor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me. I was with my boyfriend for 3 years and he left me for a 16 yr old. He was 26. I was 24. and pregnant. As much as I hated him. I still loved him. but as soon as they broke up I was right there. I forgave him and we have been together now for 15 yrs. but if I had to do it all over again I wouldn't have got back with him. He hasn't changed any. I have caught him cheating 2 times. That I know of. They never change. If he left you for her. He will leave her for someone else and if its you then he will keep cheating. We were broke up for 3 yrs and I tried to date but I still had feelings for him so It was hard to get interested, I know your lonely and you remember the way things were but they were not as good as you would like to remember. You are better off
2006-10-03 19:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need him.
Although you still love him and of course it's going to hurt.
Leave him be.
You would be better off finding someone else to be involved with.
It seems that he isn't a good person anyways because he is a damn child molester. You need to look at yourself and find out what makes you want to be with someone who likes little girls.
2006-10-03 19:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him go, and make a wonderful life for yourself and your daughter.
There are lots of agencies who will give free counseling and support, as well as job training to women. Look in your local yellow pages.
My suggestion is to be a success and meet someone new, someone with qualities you are proud of... someone who wants to be with you!
2006-10-03 19:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by wxgddss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a loser. You have to make an effort to move on. There are plenty of guys out there.
2006-10-03 19:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from your writing I suggest going back to school, learn how to write, and get a life.
2006-10-03 19:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'd have to be 14 again i guess. the man's a child molester, face it , then face the other way and RUN
2006-10-03 19:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not worth the time, but, she's young, he can't keep up with a young tight, firm... omg gotta go!
2006-10-03 19:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by shambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋