Parents, would you?

Question

Parents, would you kick your pregnant teen daughter out or keep them at home?

Answer 1

If you are the parent, don't even dream of it. You are a family; stay as a family. If you kick her out at this crucial time of her life, you'll lose your little girl forever. You probably did not have this tension; so you won't understand hers. All the more reason for you to be supportive, even if in your heart you disapprove. Examine options with a counsellor, if you can't handle the situation yourselves.
If you are the pregnant teen daughter, ask your parents to be understanding. Plead with them if you have to. This is not a time to be proud or egoistic. You'll need their support, however unwillingly they give it.
A distant cousin of mine was "kicked out" several years ago for the same reason. Fortunately a spinster aunt of hers intervened and took her into her own house. From that day onward, the aunt became her "mother", and remained so till the end. My cousin inherited everything from her aunt -- home, wealth, and, most important, the lesson of being human to others and accepting the person with all her "failings", if unwed motherhood may be called a failing, which I don't think it is.
One outcome of this experience is that she has become overprotective of her own daughter and is doing all she can to prevent history from repeating itself all over again. Frankly, despite this over-protection, or perhaps because of it, I think it will. Only time can tell. Her daughter is 14 now.

Answer 2

I am not a parent.

However, I will answer as a future parent and a present adult, I will not kick my teen pregnant daughter out of our home.

She needs support and guidance. Kicking a teen pregnant mother out is not a good role model of parenting nor motherhood.

There will be lots to do on guiding her, but I won't abandon my child.

Answer 3

Well,hun i am not a mother,but i am helping raise my sisters children,so they are like my children.If my neice came to me,and she was pregnant,i definately would not kick her out.If it were my own daughter,i also wouldnt kick her out.At that time in a teenage girls life,is rough enough and her being pregnant on top of that.She needs her familys support more than ever.Even if it comes as a shock,and you may be disappointed in her,but having her home,knowing she is getting a warm hot healthy meal.Knowing she is being taken care of,isnt being harmed in anyway.Knowing she has a warm safe roof over her head,is more than that disappointed feeling.I would allow my daughter,or my neice who is just like a daughter to me to stay with me as long as she wanted.Every parent dreams of their children graduating college,having a career,getting married,having children,(In that order),and it doesnt mean she cannot do those things,she just has a little blessing on the way.The moment you look at your granddaughter for the first time,will be priceless it will be something you never forget.Do not miss out on being a part of your daughters life,and your granddaughters life because she made one tiny mistake.The little one is a blessing,even if she is only a teenager,it is a blessing.No one here has a right or reason to judge because you are asking this question,i am merely giving what i would do and feel in this situation.You and only you can make that choice.Good luck.

Answer 4

I would keep her at home. Whether you like it or not you are about to be a grandmother. It is obvious your child isn't making the best decision right now and the only way to make sure your granchild is getting everything it needs is to be right on top of it's mother. Not only will your daughter need guidance but she will need a lot of love and support as she makes the very drastic change from irresponsible teen to responsible adult in such a short time.

Answer 5

I don't think you should kick her out at all. She made a mistake but you know what when you see your grandkid for the first time everything will change. My mom hated the fact that I got pregnant but our relationship got so much better because we were able to talk more. Now she loves her grand daughter more than anything in the world and I don't come over one weekend she gets upset.

Answer 6

You would not only be kicking your daughter out, you'd be kicking your grandchild out. Everybody makes mistakes & teen girls who are pg need all the support they can get & if they don't get it from their families who are they going to get it from? Some boy who got her pg that don't really care about her? Then they break up & she's working at McDonalds trying to raise a baby...
A teen needs good prentatal care and emotional & financial support from her family.
If you turn your back on them when they need you the most then maybe they don't need you in their life because you're not a loving supportive parent.
I'm not saying YOU as in you the asker, just speaking in general. I have no idea if you are in this situation.

Answer 7

I wouldn't 'kick her out', but there would be a big difference between a 13yo and an 18yo pregnant teen. I would involve the 'teen' in discussion about her future like plans goals etc. I have never known anyone to 'kick out' a teen because she was pregnant.

Answer 8

I would never kick any of my children out, and especially I wouldn't kick out my pregnant daughter. I was a pregnant teen, and my parents didn't kick me out. Who would?

Answer 9

No way, I would never kick my daughter out, because what would that solve? Nothing. She would die out on the streets from labour. Keep them at home, and what they need is support, not punishment, even if they were doing it on purpose just to bother you. If you are dealing with that problem, (you did not say whether you were or weren't) the one thing that you should focus on is helping her learn her lesson. Be there for her, don't treat her like trash. It's stupid and it doesn't solve a thing.

Answer 10

Oh sure, awesome. Kick her out and let someone else take care of your daughter AND grandchild. I hope there's more to this story and that you really are NOT considering kicking your daughter out of the house just because she's pregnant.