Okay, so lately around school people have been saying how mean and stuck up I come across. Now, I asked my close friends and they admitted that when they first met me, I seemed kind of standoff-ish. They also said I'm a lot of fun when they get to know me, but I don't want to be hated around the school! I could be considered a popular girl, but I don't want my first impressions to ruin any chances of making new friends. Also, it seems guys get along with me better than girls. Any tips, suggestions or opinions? Thanks!
2006-10-03 11:56:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well, first off you don't need to change yourself for anyone! the fact that your friends got to know you is a good thing, maybe the rest of the kids will do the same. but, once you give it time and begin to talk to everyone during classes, lunch, or whenever you can they will soon see what your friends see in you. just continue to be yourself, a good person and everyone will soon see that for themselves. good luck!
2006-10-03 12:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by TNW22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always made a bad first impression. I am always seen as cold, standoff-its etc. Many times I will say to a person, "You may dislike me now, but when you get to know me, you will hate me." Believe it or not, it breaks the ice.
I was a adult education instructor and when introducing my self I would often bring a whip to class and tell them that I would use it if I had too. Yes, I would scare them, but by the end of the class I had them eating out of my hand. So when you face a new person don't be shy, just tell them that you may come over bad, but that when they get to know you, they will find that your not a bad sort and they just might find that they will like you. Let your hair down and put you best foot forward, let them see who and what you really are right up front. In my case I always got along better with girls than with men, but that was men tended to feel threaten by me and jealous of how I got along so well with girl and they were having a hard time doing so. Maybe this is what is happening to you also.
Let the other girls know that you aren't trying to best them when it comes to getting boys interested in you.
2006-10-03 19:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys'll alwayz get along better with you, that's how world works. But as for making other friends and seeming friendly.. well, you just need to 'seem friendly' that's it. Put on a smile like you were told and try to be 'nicer' than usual but maintain your personality. First impressions are good but not pretty important so don't worry. I do give first and second impressions of a bookworm but I actually am so not, the thin layer outside doesn't count as much as the core does..you have friends, then you deserve them.
lol, my friends say I had a '**** off' on my forehead the first time they met me! hehehe XD
2006-10-03 19:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by MalaK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably want to try to overcome this while you're still in school. It might not be easy. But someday you may be married and become a Stay At Home Mom. It will be important to socialize and not feel isolated.
Best advice to overcome this - be yourself. Once people get to know you, word of mouth will spread.
Good luck!
2006-10-03 19:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by L.A. Scene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are a very shy person, or never talk to anyone, then people will judge you immediately. It's really annoying, I am very shy, and people think that I am "too good" for someone or something. Don't worry about what others think, because really, you know who you are the best.
2006-10-03 19:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is who you are then go with it. Obviously if there are people out there that are willing to take the time to get to know you those people are true friends. You don't have to make everyone like you. There are many people who you won't get along with through no fault of yours or thiers. Be yourself and don't worry about what other people think of you.
2006-10-03 18:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by vancie121 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who cares what anyone one else thinks the girls don't like you because they are jealous and the guys like you because you are hot but if you care what they say just try to be more friendly
2006-10-03 19:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are ok being who you are we all have our own personaltys like me your just a little shy that makes us very mysterious my daughter has more male friends and she does ok
2006-10-03 19:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by piicklees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be more friendly to everybody and always wear a smile
2006-10-03 18:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just dont act like your betta then the ppl u first meet across..
MANNERS WILL TAKE U A LOOOOOOOOOOOONG WAY...
2006-10-03 18:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by iyikka14 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋