I've has a very horrible experience with a so called friend and a job, I left a very good job to work for this person and they s**t on me from a great height, took advantage of my good nature and contacts, this resulting in a tribunal this week because they owe me salary.I've had the life sucked out of me and feel worthless I also have a funny feeling they are going to say that they can't afford to pay me what they owe me, I'm so not a nasty person but I need to get satisfaction some how, can anyone help? Good techniques on revenge or should I just be a good girl and move on???
2006-10-03 11:46:03 · 14 answers · asked by Ev 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I wouldn't try and exact revenge in a business place, it'll just end up making you look bad. Plus, take comfort in the knowledge that karma has a very nice way of doing these sorts of things for you. How much nicer will it feel when your 'friend' screws up on her own without your intervention?
Move onwards and upwards!!
2006-10-03 11:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by punk_tigger 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not revenge it is called justice . This is not you being nasty it is the start of you being assertive. Enlist the help of a friend of older person, stop the panic, go to the tribunal with your head held up high as you are the victim here and we have all been there with so called friends and family. Be glad, you have a chance of getting a fair closure on this and these people will be bound by the decision of the tribunal to make payment to you. Good luck. Stop by taking the first step in calling yourself an independent woman not a girl.
2006-10-03 11:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT happens sometimes things get out of control and survival mode takes over Other times greed was the object of friends intent from the beginning.
What ever the reason revenge is unlikely to give you satisfaction.
What will give you a great deal more satisfaction will be to succeed.
You may then feel like ramming your success down their throats but in truth you will be more likely to think that it is no longer worth your effort and just feel satisfied with yourself.
Have your tribunal and if you get anything out of it great but then move on and use the experience as something to drive you on.
2006-10-03 12:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was treated bad by a big company Asda, so i took them 2 a tribunal it made me really ill but they settled out of court the day before so you take your friend to the tribunal and let me tell u that what ever they have done has done you a favour just think of the saying what goes around comes around in a few months you will feel great i really understand how u feel the better you treat someone the worse you get treated, stay strong as you are the better person. all the luck in the future from miss genuine
2006-10-03 13:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by suejackrob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well revenge is not the answer as you will only feel guilty for you have done. I had the exact same thing happen to me but I learnt to forgive and forget because what comes around goes around. the important thing is too learn from your mistake in trusting others 100%
the next move is too first stabilise yourself in getting a new job and remember one thing friends are what we think others are, most cases they are work colleagues or acquaintances. If the individual was a true friend this would not off happened.
So for future purposes be wise as too who you associate with and don't be so naive to others demands. not all are genuine and honest people. When it comes to business you need to establish that business and pleasure are two completely different things.
i hope you find it in your heart to forgive as holding grudges only causes you too feel bitter and because you stated clearly your not a horrible person, be the better person and walk away from this with your head held high with your dignity in tact and this in return will cause the so called friend to trully understand that you were an amazing person and they have made the biggest mistake in their life.
2006-10-03 12:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by June 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, i don't know what sort of company you were running together but is there any way of stopping your contacts from dealing with the person that took advantage of you? A couple suggestions, under cutting your ex business partner with the price, or you can be vindictive and contact your contacts and tell them that your ex business partner is ripping them off, or you could do it anonymously by post or phone, the choice is yours in which path to take if any. Steve W.
2006-10-03 15:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ste W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the tribunal hearing is over publisize what the claim was about the name of the company the people who gave evidence at the hearing and the owner of the company. put an advert in the local paper and on the net and of course tell everyone on this site
2006-10-03 11:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get Mad, dont get even, get ahead - some one said that to me (the best revenge is knowing you got by honest means everything your adverary tried to get dishonestly).. I have had £100,000s cheated from me by various business partners.. I wanted my revenge.. but found I was wasting my time coz they played by different dirty rules.. it wasn't worth it.. after a while everyone saw them for what they were untrustworthy.. overtime they went down I went up...have you never watched "my name is earl" !!!
2006-10-03 12:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that you Jane? lol i had a boss like that who would delay paying staff after they left by a month or two! fat cow lol i threatened with ACAS and basically turned up at the office and made her cut a cheque (we were paid by occasionally bouncing cheques) i have so many shocking stories about that place. good luck
2006-10-03 20:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Gravy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was a contract involved get a lawyer the first visit is usually free.
2006-10-03 11:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mr.Morgan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋