My husband and I are buying a bar. He is the socialite and I'm the accountant. I feel that his contribution to this endeavor would be to get the bar jumping. My contribution would be doing the bookeeping. He says that it wouldn't be a good idea for me to do the bookeeping, because he wants his "Independence" without me accounting for every penny. I say that, my accounting for every penny isn't a bad thing. So, there is our problem. I balance a our finances at home, a cleaning business we own, as well as doing accounting for 12 years and 3 yr of college. I would definitely want a CPA to complete our tax returns but, should I be offended that he doesn't want me to manage our new business?
2006-10-03 11:45:27 · 19 answers · asked by BB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Possibly, he feels he needs this for him. To feel like he can accomplish it and make a go of it. I suggest you play it that your wanting to do the books is just a way to keep expenses down until the business takes off. By the time it makes enough to pay for an accountant you will have done it for so long he wont even remember he had a problem with it. Or at that point take a brake help him find some one to do the books but by then he will feel more secure.
2006-10-03 12:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by rangerhonor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more concerned with his reasons for not allowing u to be the bookeeper. And what does he mean by "his independence"? Seems to me that if u two are to have a business together, nothing should be hidden, as far as finances goes. I suggest u ask him his reasons and demand some real answers.
2006-10-03 12:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell? Gezz divorce him and marry me! I hate book work...and so does my wife! LOL I am just kidding about the divorce thingy...seriously why would he have a problem with that? We own a repair shop / lawn and garden store/ ATV repairs and parts ect so there is a LOT of book keeping . I would LOVE it if my wife....who by the way is a 50/50 partner not Only in our shop but also on the farm we own, would just take over and do ALL the books....that leaves me to do what I know best....and I can tell you that is NOT the books. I would talk to him about this and let him know that you really would like to be in a partnership with him on this....if he says no....then open your own bar lol.
Best of luck...I hope things work out for you
2006-10-03 12:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 08:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by shiner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good business man knows his own strengths and weaknesses. Having you do the books leaves him free to do what he does best.
However, if you two cannot separate business from pleasure, it could be a problem. After all, you will be put in the role of controller and him in the role of cruise director.
Perhaps that is what is concerning him. You already do it at home and for another business.
2006-10-03 11:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he nuts...!!! Why would he want someone other than his life patner to do the books. I do not think he wants someone in the bar riping you and him off. I would stick to your guns and tell him that if he does not use you as the accountant, he can find a new partner. What does this guy want to hide?
2006-10-03 12:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mitch G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is saying is he wants to do this one without feeling like your his mom breathing down his neck.I'm married, she does finances I make money...but if I bought a bar I do believe I'd be the same way. As long as it doesn't put you in debt give him a try, it will boost his level of trust for you if you trust him.
2006-10-03 11:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the question here is trust? you need to talk to him more and ask him why he wouldn't let you do it? you dont need no college degrees to do these business it's good that you have it but the whole point here is why your husband wouldn't let you take care of it? what ever reasons he comes up with will you be ok with it? that's all it matter. congrat on your business and good luck
2006-10-03 11:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by kevin n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the one in our house who does the money
i have no problem with him finding out where evry penny is because he does it in a calm way .
to me hi sway seem like he does it with out trying to mak eme feel like a burden or anything
maybe he thinks that he has to show you that he can manage
i bet if you talk to him and tell him that it isnt that you think he cant but that this would be some way for you to feel involved!!!;}
2006-10-03 12:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by jenettpurvis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be offended but I'd question him further as why he wants to spend money on smeone else for the same service. Wouldn't it be smarter to keep the money in the family?
2006-10-03 11:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋