Let me say that he did not forget. We went out to dinner for my bday and his card was rejected. I paid. My birthday and our anniversary were the next day. I did not expect anything( a gift that is). I did expect for him to say "happy bday" or happy anniversary. I was so disappointed that he said nothing. How can I get past the disappointment.
2006-10-03 11:35:39 · 9 answers · asked by boxley4404 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him why he didn't say anything, and tell him that you expect at least a verbal acknoledgement on your b-day.
Did YOU wish HIM a happy anniversary?
2006-10-03 11:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question is how is it that his card didn't work and you paid? If so, and he didn't pay you back, this is odd. But I know how you feel.
When my husband didn't get me a present on the first Valentine's Day, I made sure to make a point of it - in a light way - so that he would know never to do that again. It depends on how you two communicate. We joke, so all I had to say was "I remember you once told me you were great at giving presents - so your ex used to tell you - so when you get home from work I'm expecting the best present of all time being that she was just a girlfriend and I'm your wife!" Again, humor can really help a situation if you know how to use it. It "saves face" and gets the point across. But if you need to be direct, then by all means do so.
Don't write him off as a bad person or anything. It might not be something that his family ever did. My family wasn't big into presents. Or he may just have a different love language. I always recommend Gary Chapman's five love languages and you may want to share with him what you learn from the book, that you have one kind of love language and are trying to find out his... There is even an online test that helps you figure out what you are. lt's great.
Best wishes!
2006-10-03 11:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Romey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-27 03:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long you have been married, but communication is critical in any relationship. Love develops and grows, or gets damaged and soars downwards. You need to sit him down and tell him that by not saying anything to you for these special days in your life, you felt hurt, and unloved. Did YOU say happy anniversary to him??? If you did, and he didn't say anything back, you have some issues that need to be handled right away. You are looking at a red flag. Share your disappointment with him, get his input. That is the only way that you can move forward.
2006-10-03 11:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unacceptable - period. If had forgotten, that would be bad. But knowing it was your birthday and completely disregarding it is really unacceptable in a loving relationship (which i'm assuming you have). Ask him why he made no mention about either your Bday or your anniversary. This is no time to be shy or coy - just come straight out with it. Let him know that he hurt you with his indifference.
2006-10-03 11:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by earthlove32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight up is always the best when it comes to this. Otherwise, this just festers and that's not good for either one of you.
2006-10-03 11:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Judy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him did he forget something on that day that is so important to you and him as well.?
2006-10-03 11:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by dianna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you say:
I want a divorce.
2006-10-03 11:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by sxysparkler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about no sex for a year!
2006-10-03 11:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋