I have a 14 yr old son. Father lives in a different state from us, we moved 4 years ago. i have complete physical and legal custody. I have NEVER requested a modification to support. I am now seriously considering a modification to the support (145.00) is all I get now. I am also wanting him to pay his half of our sons medical and dental bills, copays, medications, etc. that our divorce decree states. I didn't take him back to court all these many years due to the fact that my son is not comfortable with his father. Will the court make my son see his father if we go back and change the order. In our divorce decree, it states that he sees our son only on sundays for a certain number of hours. We live 3 hours away and that certainly wont work now. What do you think. This man has the ability to pay, has a new baby and paying more support for a child he fathered after our divorce. So he has 3 kids including mine. I worry for my son. Will the court make him visit his Dad?
2006-10-03 11:33:49 · 9 answers · asked by Premo Mom 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For one I am in compliance with this. He is not. I didn't have to ask my x if i could move, i have full legal and physical custody so my decision alone. He could see his son if he wanted, but hasn't tried. He is not in compliance he doesn't pay his copay, dental medical or anything else he has been ordered by the court to do. I realize that I had my children and wouldn't trade anything for them. I am not having more as someone suggested I stop having them. And yes to the very rude person, I did have my son and haven't asked anyone to help me raise him. I asked for child support suggestions not help raising my son. Learn to read the actual question. Some of you are so helpful and I appreciate all the great suggestions, I could use them, but to the rude people, I see why you spend all your time on the computer, you have nothing else better to do, and obviously have no one to share your life with, and for that society thanks you.
2006-10-03 11:51:20 · update #1
your son is old enough to ask the court for less or more visitation time with his father. They most likely will not make him visit more. The amount of support you receive is very low...you should be allotted more. We paid $800.00 for one child and alot more before the oldest turned 18 AND we paid for insurance.
Good luck!
2006-10-03 11:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes the father has rights to his son..being in two differant states the state he lives in will become the primary state to file because this is where he resides..if he pushes this, which his attorney will tell him to do,he is entitled to see his son..whether you aprove or not!another thing you stated that you moved right?he can argue in court that you broke the divorce agreement and broke the father son bond!if he is paying for another 3 children you may very well get a reduction which he can also go for..sorry but i just went thru all of this and won custody of my daughter..it's not a free check anymore,you have to prove what you say after it goes to a higher court and is away from domestic's..every case is differant,i wish you luck!
2006-10-03 18:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Court will not MAKE the father see your child - but the father could insist on the right to see his child. The Court could decide on a different schedule (like a weekend every month). But if the father is not interested in seeing your child - the Court will not FORCE him to do so.
2006-10-03 18:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by RT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may...but if you have your son talk to a professional and explain how he feels, then take that to the courts with you, it could sway them not to enforce it.
Bottom line is, your original decree stated he has visitation and that has not been happening, so you are out of compliance with the order to begin with, so cross your fingers and best of luck to you.
2006-10-03 18:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 4...I have never gotten a dime. And I am not disappointed one bit. I do not have to deal with her father, the system, various laws and the courts.
I am free. Best of all I get a feeling of self accomplishment in the fact that I do it all by myself. Unfortunately you are hooked and now you have to do what the courts and governments tell you to do.
2006-10-03 18:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him in your life, let it be. Since you have taken on the other responsibilities, then keep going, don't give in to financial setbacks. Grow up and accept ALL the responsibilites ...Good Luck
2006-10-03 19:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get raid of the kids. Stop having them. I'm not having any.
2006-10-03 18:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You brought the kid into this f****d up world, you figure out how to raise him.
2006-10-03 18:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They cant make, thats only if he wants.
2006-10-03 18:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋