ok, my bff just lost her virginity, leaving me the only virgin in our group of friends. before she did it, me & her stuck together and were really close. but ever since it happened, shes been bringing it up nonstop, waving it (unintentionally) in my face. i hate when she talks about it.. ive come to resent her for it and i feel almost jealousy (even tho its not smthgn to be jealous of) and inferiority.. i know i can lose it whenever but i dont want to do it just to be even with her. its almost as if, now that she has had sex, she is looking down on me for not doing it.
i dont know if im making sense but i dont know what to do.. theres no way im going to confront her about it so dont say that.. and yes, i am of age and out of high school, so dont treat me like a 16 yr old.
and if you are going to say, be proud of your virginity and all that shht ..dont.
thanks.
2006-10-03 11:30:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok, I won't say to be proud, but I can sure tell you that you most likely will regret it later, because you didn't do it out of love... so in this case, be proud! Don't be jealous... just be glad it wasn't you that did it out of pitty to be like the "group" Do it when you're in love, it feels better... A LOT better! Men will respect you more than they would respect her, or she respects herself... and now she's probably hating, it shouldn't be you hating, cuz you're still the lucky one!
Time will come for that!
2006-10-03 11:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's looking down on you just because she lost her virginity first that's not a true friend. Have you ever considered telling her how you feel or just plain telling her off. But really, I know you said don't say this but you really ought to to be proud of your virginty and if you think its **** then what does that say about you? That you just want to lose yours so you can get even with that. You should respect your body to know that when you get married that will be the right time. SO who gives care about your friend.
2006-10-03 11:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Dee I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of time to make the decision to give it up. I would not rush into doing something rash like having sex to compete with your friend. I would just let her know that you dont like hearing about her sex life all the time. Believe me the first time is never that great, she is probably making up alot of it. So be patient and this whole thing will pass. Besides when you finally do it the best thing to do is keep it to yourself anyways.
2006-10-03 11:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey, i know this is a tuff time, but TRUST ME! if you can wait till you are married or atleast in college with a serious boyfriend, you will be the winner!, you might have a boyfriend in high school that you will swer that he is the man of your like, but the truth is that it never works out that way, just wait till your out of high school and you will be very happy!
2006-10-03 11:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be jealous of your friend it sounds like to me she is jealous of you because you are sticking to your guns and not giving up your virginity it's a good thing to wait until your married
2006-10-03 11:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with keeping your virginity. did she really loose it or is she just bragging. no one but her and the guy knows for sure. Guys will have more respect for you if you aren't sleeping around. keep it for as long as you can. good luck.
2006-10-03 11:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl listen to me okay i'm 17 year old i have alot of friend but i have only 2 friends that geting married and they lost their vriginity their dumass boyfriend but my friend samantha she lost her to a 19 year old bf anyway she is only 17 year old i mean come on!! i'm the only one did'nt lost my vriginity to a boy yet thanks god !! i wait unit i'm married ok be proud you have if you want baby and your man leave you for a other girl bye.
2006-10-03 11:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by nightblue258 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what she did you shouldn't want to lose your virginity because she did just ell her so what and stop bragging about it because unlike her when you get married your husband can have something no one else has had
2006-10-03 11:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by aisha l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her thats the only way and what u r doing by waiting is a good thing
2006-10-03 11:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course u shouldnt confront her bout somthin like dat. but i dont understand wat u need help wid. if it's about being jealous then there really isnt anything u can do about that except keep her from tlkin about around when she starts tlkin about it try changing the subject or somthin just to keep her from tlkin bout stuff like dat
2006-10-03 11:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by gurlplaya11324 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋