Well i have this friend and her boyfriend is sio controlling and mean. They fight all the time and i don't see how she could be happy and i want to ask her why she put ups with it but i don't know how to ask her any ideas?
2006-10-03 11:21:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I was wondering what SashaCIF was enbarassed tro be a Valley Girl
2006-10-03 11:51:10 · update #1
why doesnt she leave him?
haha...valley gurl, nice name....im embarassed to say im from the valley...hehe
edit: im a guy! im a valley guy!
2006-10-03 11:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she likes it, maybe she loves him. my mum and friends think the same about my boyfriend of 12months. we argue quite often but always resolve it even if it means talking about it with both of us crying for an hour or so, this kinda stuff just happens when you're in a relationship it gets annoying sometimes but i know that he's just looking out for me and doesn't want me to make the same mistakes he did at my age (he's 7 years older) i guess the reason for me putting up with it is that and also because i love him so much. if you really want to know WHY just let her know how concerned you are and ask, if she is a true friend she shouldn't mind your asking. i know..., i've been there and unfortunately some of my friends didn't accept, believe or understand my answer. it's like you have to have been there to know how it feels
2006-10-03 13:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by pcdo_universe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pull her aside and tell her straight that you need to ask her something as a friend and that it shouldn't be taken offensively and your only doing this because your her best friend and you want what's best for her( Not trying to sound to sappy or anything but it's true.)
2006-10-03 11:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Dee I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out to lunch with her and tell her that you care about her very much and you would like it if she could explain to you why she puts up with his crap all the time. You must realize that the things you say to her are not always understood and appreciated because she cares about this guy very much. She may not see it the way you see it. Good luck.
2006-10-03 11:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by LiSa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with a conversation, and say do you like your bf? Then let her answer. But you've been fighting so much, tell me are you happy with that? And if she gets mad at you, say I'm just trying to help, I want to make you happy, you're my friend and I care about you. Are you really sure you love him? I just want to make you happy, and I want to make sure you're happy, if you want to stay with him, that's your choice, but thing about it, you wanna live like this?
2006-10-03 11:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to make sure you come to her the right way because if you come the wrong way she may get offended. think before you speak though. i may be wrong but ask her if she is happy in her relationship and continue from there
2006-10-03 11:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by aisha l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋