I go to a pretty big Middle school, but I noly have like 5 really close friends, who I ahrdly ever see. I want to make more friends, and get mroe best friends, but I am really shy and I cant think of anything to say in front of people. How can I get some more friends, and be more outgoing? Also, one of my friends that hated me last year, but was best friends with me the year before that is now on my "team" she had a fight with her best friend a week ago, so she sat with m at lunch, and we were friends. but now, her other best friend apologizes, so she doesnt speak to me anymore. I want to be friends with her, because she s really awsome, but I dont know how
2006-10-03 11:15:00 · 5 answers · asked by Amber R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this is advice i've given a lot of people regarding shyness..and it's from first hand experience. :) i was shy for LONG time, all the way up to college! it's only in the past few ways i've really made a change in myself, and in my life. i encourage u to continue working on yourself, ur knowledge, and the less u worry about ur looks, and the more you Know, the more u'll be able to discuss and talk about w/ people, and not be scared. good luck!!!
the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.
so having said that, work on:
1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.
2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.
3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.
:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.
2006-10-04 04:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay first things first, you'll learn in the long run you will be lucky if you have 1 best friend. No one needs more than 1 best friend so try not to put so much energy in having tons of best friends and I think you'll be much happier. Also about your old BF, sounds to me that she was just using you while her friend was mad at her. She doesn't sound like an awesome friend to me at all......
2006-10-03 11:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just smile a lot. you're in middle school you have plenty of time to make tons of friends! find people with the same intrests as you. join clubs and go to dances! and you can be friends with the one girl, but it sounds like she is kind of shallow, just not talking to you anymore.
2006-10-03 11:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Rabidactyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You overcome being shy one step at a time. Force yourself to talk even if you have to do it afraid. You want overcome by not doing anything about it. Don't let fear stop you.
2006-10-03 11:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by mclamb63 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-06-21 03:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by Bradley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋