I don't want to come out to my friends. A lot of the gay kids on my school get nasty rumors spread about them and stuff. I know i can trust my friends but my school has some serious big mouths and nosey girls who are always out to ruin one person. I don't want to be treated differently if I tell them that I'm Bi.
2006-10-03 11:11:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Friend,
If you got people at school that are out to ruin folks because they are gay...just ignore them. If you can't trust your friends enough to come out to them...then they aren't your friends.
The folks who are TRULY your friends, they don't really care if you are gay or not AND they probably already figured out you are gay, and once again, they still like you for who you are.
2006-10-03 11:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Delilah L W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell some really close friend or someone you trust first.
I'm gay and I just told it to my best straight guy friend a couple of months ago. He was very sympathetic with me and he told me it did not change anything between us. I'm sure he's not gonna tell anyone about it. We're still so close to each other as we were before and he's accepted me totally. He passed this test with an A++, and I'm very happy to have such a good friend. Now there is much less conflict inside me about my sexuality and I feel much better.
2006-10-03 11:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by ted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have friends for like 7 years. It was kind of good that I didn't have them, because then I wouldn't of had to come out to friends. When I found friends last year it changed my life, now that I have gay friends I'm not longer closed minded and I can be very open with myself, more open than I've ever been.
2006-10-03 22:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Brandon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still haven't come out to all of my friends. The ones I've known for a long time know, but not the newer ones. I've told one person I go to school with, but it is college so it's different then a bunch of jr high or high school students trying to run a smear campaign on you just so they'll feel better about themselves. You know who you trust in your heart, go with that.
2006-10-03 11:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by 2crooked 2b straight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got da same problem except I'm not really bi or les...I'm only into ONE girl...I must say I fell in love w/ my best friend. We only told like our REAL close friends who can keep secrets. When ppl talk about us they defend us and say we're not 2gether. Those are friends. Mature friends. So if u gotta come out I'd say just tell those who u CAN REALLY REALLY trust.
2006-10-03 13:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by M.L.C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually came out to my friends that were also gay. One of them thought that I told our other straight friends. They said that they've suspected, but just wouldn't say anything. They are also fine with it. No issues. I do suggest that if there is at least 1 ounce of doubt, then don't do it.
2006-10-03 11:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you probably shouldn't come out just yet. That doesn't make you a coward, it makes you smart. You'll probably have a *much* easier time of things in college.
I've told this story here--twice, I think--but you may like it anyway.
I was watching videos with a group of girls, all friends of mine, in one of our homes. This was way back, in 1991. My best friend and I were seventeen. I thought (and still think) Sinead O'Connor was just absolutely smoking hot. So did my seemingly heterosexual best friend. When "Nothing Compares 2 U" came on, she blurted out, "I'd do her, man!" I high-fived her and said "Hell yeah," partially 'cause that's how I felt and partially 'cause I wasn't going to let my friend twist in the wind all by herself, and then we were out to all our friends, just like that!
2006-10-03 11:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came out to one friend who is also gay and he was suportive. I've been slowly doing it one at a time
2006-10-03 17:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came to my close friend.. She said she already knew. Keep between your friends untill your ready to fully come out. Highschool is cruel, just bite your tounge and when till you graduate, it will be your time to live
2006-10-03 11:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by aza_424 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I'd done it sooner, but I didn't come out to friends (straight ones, that is) until I was like 35. most had figured out long before that I wasn't straight....and they didn't care! they've been very accepting, as my family has been.
2006-10-03 15:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋