Hello! So I'm filing for custody and child supp. for my baby girl. I'm debating now if this is really the right thing to do. The daddy hasn't ever seen her and has always made excuses to her parties and stuff. The 1st time he saw her was at court today and he was non emotional, coldhearted, nonslagia and just walk by shugging her off. Who does that to their baby? Their own flesh and she looks so much like him. I'm in tears becuz I want to do whats right but i don't want to be the mean person in all this. It has nothing to do with me, him or our families - only the child. But why is this so emotionally hard? I really want to drop everything and not deal with him but i'm afriad my baby girl will lose if i do and of course I don't want that. :_( I just don't understand how someone can think a baby is such an inconvience and mistake they shug them off. She has never ever been turned away from anyone - until now and that was by her biological father! I haven't stopped crying!
2006-10-03 11:02:02 · 6 answers · asked by colette_2378 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It can only get better from here. Three months from now it will all be just a memory, and you and the baby will be getting on with your lives.
2006-10-03 11:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should file for child support in order to help you take care of our daughter.
Concerning the father, I know you're heartbroken. Did he want to be a father to begin with? If not, then he's just putting distance between himself and his daughter so neither of them will become attached. It's sad, but it's a possibility. I'm not saying that it's right or wrong, but if he were forced into a situation he didn't want to be in, then I understand his response. It may be emotionally hard for you if you wanted a family life and /or relationship with this man, and it didn't happen. It's tough because you love your daughter and can't understand why he doesn't. For better or for worse, you and the father are coming into this situation from two completely different points of view.
Focus on what's going to give your daughter the best possible life. If that includes child support, then fine.
2006-10-03 11:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want your ex to be in your childs life knowing that he dosn't give a crap about her. Your child is better off. Later, when your child is older, you can explain the situation to her and let her decide what it is she wants as far as her father goes. In the meantime, I'm sure that one day you will meet someone who will love you and your daughter as if she were his own.
My ex only sees his kids so that he can mentally abuse them. Trust me, you don't want that. Save your daughter and yourself from the anguish.
2006-10-03 11:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sue O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to proceed with it! i'm a father, very active with my child and have shared custody because in my case this is in the best interest of the child..he is a a$$hole..what real father could walk away?none! he is a sperm Donner..a biological entity in your child's life..the child has a right to a good life,,press on and go for it all!
2006-10-03 11:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it sometime, it will become easier. If you are not well off then go for child support.
2006-10-03 11:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by WISEMAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely file for custody and support - IT'S FOR YOUR BABY!
2006-10-03 11:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋