Still wants to be intimate, kisses and hugs you goodbye when he leaves for work, calls you on his break? i'm really confused coz my man said he was falling out of love with me but he acts like he still loves me. He had said he was moving out but post poned his date for moving out. Theres a time he changed his passwords, closed our joint account stating he doesn't trust me but he recently loaned me money and so i asked him if he wanted to write out a contract stating that i would pay him back but he said he "trusts me" im really confused because he acts like he loves me but says he doesn't why is he acting like this? anyone with an idea? why would a man act like that? is he really leavin or is it a front...i have been acting like i could care less and i have even wished him good luck in his life, what's funny is that everytime i tell him i'm going out he starts asking me a million questions why is he saying he doesnt love me but yet acts like he does? any suggestions?
2006-10-03 10:55:38 · 14 answers · asked by lovely 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe he is just horny
2006-10-03 11:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man is insecure about himself. Because of his insecurities he doesn't trust you because he believes you're probably out cheating, or something of the like. He took charge to make you see that he would leave if the "suspicious ways" (not saying you did anything suspicious, but to him your activities must've been suspicious), to see if you cared. And, because you didn't get all worked up like some women do when their men threaten to leave, he probably realizes that he needs you. You see, he probably wanted to see you cry about how you need him and how you'll self-destruct. Honestly, I think his plan backfired when you wished him good luck and acted as though you cared less.
He still loves you otherwise he wouldn't be showing the affection that he is showing you and calling to check up on you. He just has to learn to trust, which can be a hard thing to learn. The two of you need to get marriage counseling so you can communicate with one another better and work this marriage out. And, if you're not married to him and want the relationship to work out then you'll still need counseling so that the two of you can work on ongoing problems.
2006-10-03 18:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he may have had a fling or wanted you to think that he did (does) because he wants you to show you love him more. Sometimes guys think that if you are about to lose them then you will do 10x more to keep them if you love them.
Kind of an attention getter.
If he did actually have a fling, or does, he may be trying to decide between you and the other person. Either way....I think the best thing is to be yourself and if it is hurting you, tell him. No one deserves to be hurt by anyone they give their heart to.
Let him know how you feel but protect yourself too. If he loves you and wants to be with you, then stop playing games with you. If he wants to leave, or truly feels he is falling out of love with you, maybe he should go and figure out what he wants.
Sometimes, taking control of the situation yourself (letting him know that you care about his feelings) helps tremendously.
Good luck with whatever you do.
2006-10-03 18:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by a17blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this one is confusing...I think he does love you..I just don't understand what the deal is..Is he sleeping with someone else? Maybe if he is..It is just an excuse when he says it so he doesn't feel guilty. I guess I would sit down and talk to him and figure out what the heck is going on in his brain. If he says that he really doesn't love you anymore...stop telling him where you are going(if u were) Tell him it is none of his business! Maybe that will frustrated him into talking to you about what is going on..
Otherwise if he wants out of the relationship..kick his butt out of the house..The confusion is just going to get worse if he stays!
2006-10-03 18:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what you should do sit him down and ask him to express himself and his feelings for you and ask him why is he so afraid of commitment with you and ask him why if you say you don't love me anymore why are you asking questions about where I'm going who I'm going with and when I'll be back tell him that you care about that him and that is why you are asking these questions and tell him that you are confusing me when you say you don't love me but you act like you do and ask him if you really love me or you don't then you should let me go to move on with whoever I choose because this isn't working truth be told from experience he loves you he just wants to manipulate you so he can have excuse to say that you cheated on him so he won't have to commit to you and the fact that he's afraid that you may be the right one for him and he's not ready to admit that to anyone it scares him very much but to make this work say if you want to go then go and don't make him cuddle you let him know that you can't have it both ways because it doesn't work like that scare him into thinking that you are going to leave him alone that will whip him into shape and will let him face his fears about commitment and it will let you know that he wants to be with you and wants no one else to have you
2006-10-03 18:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's a front to try and get you to act like a slave to him. Guys can be minipulative. And if he says he's moving out, show him the door and don't let him cuddle with you. If he leaves, then you're better off without him. If he stays, he'll start to see that you won't put up with his bullshit and start treating you bettter
2006-10-03 17:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's simply for booty call. he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship any longer. i'm sure he is also "doing" other women. i've been there and done that. took me a long time to figure it out before i finally said no more!
2006-10-03 18:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he wants to be able to go out and run around but still have you to come to when he cant find anything else.
2006-10-03 18:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still loves you just hoping things would get a little more exciting.
or he just doesn't have the money to support himself. needs both paychecks.
2006-10-03 18:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by xeson1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's confused himself or angry at you enough to say the things he says, but still does love you.
2006-10-03 18:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by red.cancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gay and too afraid to come out of the closet.
2006-10-03 18:15:30 · answer #11 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋