My son decided at seventeen he wanted to join the Army. I thought it was something for us to discuss but the following day after he brought it up he came home with a recruiter. I wanted him to give it more thought but he assured me this is what he wanted. I signed for him to enlist in the reserves. When he turned 18, he joined full time. After only a couple of months, he's now gone awol. I've tried to convince him to return. He refuses. At what point does a parent draw the line. He didn't come home alone. He came back with a woman and her two yr. old baby. And oh did I mention, he only recently married a girl he met. They were having trouble and he didn't bother taking care of that before he got himself in a mess with this other girl. He's ninteen and already has a wife, a mistress, and a baby, it might be funny if it wasn't so sad. As a mother I want to do what's best for him. He cussed me and left. I only want him to do the right thing. What is a mother to do? Help!
2006-10-03 10:51:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
pray and pray harder
that's all you can do
2006-10-03 10:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jesus Freak!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything else other than let him learn from his mistakes. He's an adult now and has already made a number of (questionable) decisions. He will never, ever learn how to be responsible or accountable until he has to figure it out for himself. Additionally, no matter how he feels, he should never ever have cussed you. Period.
He will come around at some point, but until then all you can do is back off. The more you try and help, the more he'll resist it.
2006-10-03 11:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read the first line and thougth I'd be reading about a 10-year old "child"- not a grown man!
I think you need to inform the army of his whereabouts if he's AWOL and let him face the consequences. He's not a child, he's an adult. Kick him out and let him deal with reality. I think you've "protected" him for much too long.
2006-10-03 10:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing you can do. he young and has to go through life making his own discissions. the more you try to tell him that he's wrong the farther he will be from you. so try to relax, forget about it, and most impotantly be supportive! even though what he's doing is wrong. im sure he's really stressed. he could you a supportive mom. but you can kick the girl out. thats where i draw the line. he can stay but a freeloader? please. be strong and supportive
2006-10-03 10:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Stan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs a serious slap upside the head. If not physically, but at least metaphorically. There is only so much help you can give. He isnt listening and he isnt acting very mature. He is technically an adult but is making childish mistakes.
Maybe the best help you can give him is tough love. Step back and make him stand on his own.
2006-10-03 10:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you need to lace up those shoes and put your foot down. What your son need from you is proper discipline I'd say, if you let him go about and do whatever he wants he'll continue to get himself in tons of trouble, you have to help him take responsibility before things get worse.
2006-10-03 10:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh sorry to hear about this..but u should let the child do what he pleases..but just try to make hime realize what he is doing. Make him think about this.. if that doesnt work then he is on his own..But show him u really care for him, even though he is most likely to say its "MY LIFE!!!" just tell him to take a close look at what he is doing.Hope he gets better soon, and GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-03 10:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to let go. Your son is old enough to face the consequences for what he has done.
Cut the umbilical cord.
2006-10-03 10:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing! He is an adult and has to learn to think things threw before he goes around making decisions.
2006-10-03 10:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turn him in! He needs to take responsibility for his actions.
2006-10-03 10:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋