do you and your other half have everything ready legally? My husband and I have power of attorney's, medical power of attorney's, living wills and wills all drawn up so that no one can ever take our rights away in the event of a medical problem or death. Basically we have all the legal rights of a married couple with these documents. Are you and your other half prepared?
2006-10-03 10:44:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
p.s. Isn't it pathetic when people post those rude comments but are not brave enough to have e-mail contact listed. Just prooves they are cowards!
2006-10-04 02:26:16 · update #1
yes ,of course including trust funds for each child ,saves so much mess if anything happened to either of us
2006-10-03 12:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bearable 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Her parents are extremely hostile to her, and my mom is just now coming around, but we still have very different perspectives. So we don't have many assets, but we have wills for what we have. The medical powers of attorney were drawn up shortly before I had internal surgery two years ago. We have powers of attorney and living wills, too.
I agree with you; this is VERY important. It's not perfect, and it sucks that we have to pay for what mixed-sex couples get automatically, but it helps.
If you're in Virginia, you need to understand that the new anti-marriage amendment that's being voted on this November will invalidate these contracts as well as marriages!
Also, even for mixed-sex couples, this paperwork would prevent situations like the horrible one the Schiavos had.
2006-10-03 17:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
we both have life insurance policies with the other as the beneficiary. we also have an unwritten agreement, which ever one kills the other first gets to keep all the s_ it and hide it from our greedy families (joking my family isn't greedy, his on the other hand you don't want to know). oh yes we both sleep with one eye open because the policies are enormous. funny but true. on another note in missouri gays have no legal rights, wills can easily be disputed, and the state can basically take what ever they want regardless of a powers of attorney. it has happened to some of my friends. i am lucky enough to work for a company that allows me to carry my partner on my life insurance and medical insurance, so god forbid anything happens to me, he will be taken care of. since im the sole provider of income, if something should happen to him i would have the life insurance and wouldn't be in any type of financial bind. my partner has the luxury of not having to work (i know i spoil him, but what can i say i love him) i work from home so we spend allot of time togehter which is great (he is away right now but will be home soon), it's great that you and your partner also think about each other in the case of death, i commend you on that. when gay marriage is legal in all states then these additional steps that we must take will make life allot more fair and easier for all gay men and lesbians. i hope that day will come sooner than later. good question Tracer : )
2006-10-03 21:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by IM THE GAY GOD ALL FEAR ME 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm fortunate - we live in CT, so our civil union gives us all the state rights of marriage (right to inherit pensions, right of automatic inheritance, ability to make medical decisions, etc.)
Before that, we had to have a will, durable power of attorney, right of survivorship, etc. But, we were always concerned that our wills would be broken by greedy relatives - and the courts have always shown a willingness to break a will in favor of blood relatives over the assigned gay beneficiary. I'm glad all that's now legally taken care of by the state.
2006-10-03 20:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by tristanrobin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a wonderful question.
My partner, Gwenneth and I had our wills but that was all..
I was hoping that we could take our long leave together but that was not possible. Gwen said she was feeling tired anyway but that I should go on the trip.
I had a wonderful time but returned to find that she had died of a virulent cancer. Her horrid family had claimed her remains and buried them in their church's private plot under a stone bearing date of birth and "UNKNOWN TO GOD".
Given the vile time I experienced subsequently I beg all of you to get your affairs "tied up".
I hope that all goes well for you all; you have my love.
Catriona Isobel Rose P.
2006-10-03 18:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. We are really rubbish and keep talking about it. AND we also have a little girl and have never made it official who would look after her in the event of our deaths. Good for you though!!
2006-10-03 17:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by zuffin 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
we are registered domestic partners in our city...but have not done all the other legal stuff. we sure need to, though. don't have any money right now, and don't know how much the legal fees to do so are...
2006-10-03 22:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I am going to adopt him so if I die he will get everything. We are discussing various options.
2006-10-03 18:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, we dont. I need to get all my affairs in line... I guess when we get past our 3 year mark this will be done...
2006-10-03 18:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by mylife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are playing house you goofus.
Quit playing
You wish you could hold a candle to 5% of a "real" couple's rights of survivorship
2006-10-03 18:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋