Do shy kids always turn out to be shy adults in your experience?

Answer 1

nope. i was outgoing until 3rd grade..then shy from 4th grade to COLLEGE!!! only in the past few years have i really turned myself around, but it was instigated by a bad experience with a guy, and i felt "fed up" with myself and my iniquities. :) anyways...long story short, this is what i write to people who ARE shy now, because this is the "mantra" that i have developed since being on yahoo Q&A and giving advice to shy people thru MY Experiences, and what i've done to help myself Continue to work on becoming better always!! :)


the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.

so having said that, work on:

1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.

2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.

3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.

:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.

Answer 2

No, I was terribly shy when I was a kid. As an adult, I am not shy at all. I was always afraid of what others would think. Now I really don't care :-)

Answer 3

Not really, I was a shy kid when I was little. No matter where I went I had friends it was just harder for me to come out of my shell. But as I got older and wanted to make more friends I knew I had to speak up. Every now and then I have those moments were I feel noone cares what I have to say. But I push myself to speak up or say hello to people. I also think my job had something to dowith it. Because I had to deal with people everyday. So if your worried just get them involved in something where they have to interact with others. It may take a while but that shell would start crack..

Answer 4

Shyness is not genetic, i dont care if someday they find a gene in our body that says different.

I am a very shy individual around new people and am 21 now. Why? because of the way others throughout my childhood looked at me. I grew up in a family that eats alot and have always been taught to never leave anything on my plate and waste, as such i was overweight (not alot but enough to be noticable).

That alone causes alot of people, particularly "popular" class people to have down look on you usually. Then of course theres fads, if 80% of the school is wannabe gangsters, sagging pants, talking in slang and such while i wear earth tone colored cargo shorts/pants and hawaiian style shirts and such. Then that too makes you not fit in.

So shyness in my opinion comes for how you are treated by society for being you. If your picked on while young and such and made to think you are different and by being so havent had many good experiences communicating and tryin to befriend alot of individuals, it causes a sense of insecurity.

I have other personal issues that made me afraid to make friends out of being embarrassed.

Basically, society is what determines shyness, if ur accepted so you dont have to be afraid, you wont be cause you will grow being used to it. If your looked down upon constantly while growing up then you tend to shy away from extroverted activities.

Answer 5

I suppose some do but I didn't, I was very shy and concerned about what others thought as a teenager. As an adult I am much more outgoing and confident with who I am.
I have to admit though, sometimes I do have to push myself outside of what is comfortable.

Answer 6

no way


like actually a lot of shy kids actually turn out to be outspoken adults (not in a bad way)

i was shy growing up but im the opposite now.. . most grow out of it

Answer 7

Lol childrens don't have a care interior the international you opt to undergo in recommendations once you've been a toddler and under no circumstances care about different adults or what the youngsters are wondering u get all the way down to their aspect ans say what are you doing??? am i able to play to??? Your 20 you've been a toddler once too don't be shy....

Answer 8

No. I have some friends who were very outgoing when they were kids, but when they grew up, they become introverts. It really depends on the environment in which they are growing up in and the life experiences they have accumulated. Such factors can influence how a person develop both mentally, physically and emotionally.

Answer 9

Not always, but you have to work at it. I was really REALLY shy as a child, but now I can talk to just about anyone. I still have times when I feel shy, but I kind of just have to force myself to open my mouth and it goes away.

Answer 10

depends on the upgrowth and adolecent years. some are still shy, or turn to be paranoid. some subconciously realise or are helped to realise and open up a little to the outside world.