- truth with kindness or humour please, a little delicate tonight!!!!
2006-10-03 10:35:30 · 42 answers · asked by GalaxyGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks all of you, as I have said befor, i could have done with you guys a few weeks ago when I sat on my own, with exception to a large bottle and packets of pills, after kissing my baby goodnight. Adil, people like you only make people like me stronger! It was my one and only marriage, i was with him 17 years and shared things you have never been trusted or honoured enough to have, maybe you need to look at why you have the attitude you do. Thanks for the comment though, I had 17 years worth of critism, yours is small in comparison!
2006-10-03 11:20:17 · update #1
My dear there is always hope for love and romance. Love is the thing which keeps us all alive, without love there would not be so happiness and joy in the world.
Failed marriage or no marriage does not matter in you failing for love, love happens all of a sudden and next thing you will know that you're in love :)
If you find the right man, he should take you the way you are, with kids or no kids.
Right now you're just on the other side, relax take some rest watch some TV, play with your kids and then start going out and look for Mr. Right.
2006-10-03 10:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by bathams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone out there for everyone.We have to treat the failed marriages as learning curves-the best part being that you have 2 wonderful children who need you to be strong for them.Don't rush into another relationship,that will come in time.You need to get your confidence built up first.Have some quality time with your children and your friends.
I've been there & also have 2 children.I now have a fantastic relationship with an adorable man-he's the 1 I've been waiting for all my life.You too can find happiness again but first you must give yourself time to come to terms with your broken heart & low self esteem.I wish you every success on your road to finding the new you.
2006-10-03 10:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by sanilav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced and i have total faith in love and remarry.. which is what I'm doing. My first marriage was horrible, but i didn't hate the world and didn't blame what my ex did on the next guy, i just understand that men are people and people are different. So now i am with my Fiancee he is the man of my dreams come true and he proposed to me one month after my divorce was final that was 07/15/2006 and we're getting married in May 2007. There is so much more to life than to dwell over spilled milk honey... go out there and enjoy your life, take dancing classes or do yoga with your girls.. and love will follow.... trust me i know. If you need to talk more you can visit my page and send me a friend request. You can see the love of my life and my comment too. Cheers ...
2006-10-03 10:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Soonie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey! Bless your heart, you must be going through a really rough time right now. But rest assured, there is life out there, and you will once again be a part of it. You have to go through a bad spell for a while, there is no way around it. Your self-esteem has taken quite a hit. But you know what? It is miraculous how often these seemingly life-ending events turn out to be the best thing to happen to us. You will find strength you never knew you had, bond with your children, and find out you are immensely attractive to another person. It will take time, but someday you will look back at the person you are right now and say, "I was so sad back then, but look at me now. I never thought I'd be this happy again!"
Right now, concentrate on you, your kids, and your job (if you work outside the home). Don't be afraid to lean on others -- the people that care about you WANT to help you!
I read a wonderful book called "Crazy Time" by Abigail Trafford after my divorce. It seemed to know me inside out. Give it a try. You can buy it here: http://www.amazon.com/Crazy-Time-Surviving-Building-Revised/dp/0060923091
Pray for wisdom and patience, not another man to get involved with right now. You are going to be fine, and if you turn to God for a little support, you will be better than ever.
Best of luck to you and your kids. And remember, millions have been where you are and thought they would never survive. They did, and you will too! :-)
By the way, I survived a divorce that I thought would devastate me forever. I am now happily remarried to a great man that I love and adore, and adores me right back. We have a wonderful life, much better than it would have been with hubby #1.
2006-10-03 10:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by marys2boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the break up of your marriage, I've been with my husband for 17 years, married for 10, and he recently had a fling and we have come close to losing each other too. The thing that helped me through it all was my faith in Jesus, and the wonderful people who have supported me from my church. Churches aren't full of amazing single men (at least mine isn't) but it is full of warmth friendship and caring people. I will simply suggest that you try it and if you have a bad experience, no need to go back. Here's the link to the group of churches I belong to, of course there are many churches but I know these guys seek to put love into action
2006-10-03 23:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is. You need to get over that broken heart start making yourself busy. You need to find love within yourself before you can love another. Find things that you are good at and find what is good about you. Be the best mom you can be but also have some time for yourself pampering yourself. The time will come when the time comes to not force it because nothing is more unattractive to a man then a woman who looks desperate for love. Dress up look your best for yourself and carry yourself with confidence. Your sure to find that special someone but just be patient.
2006-10-03 10:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is, we all get our confidence knocked hard when a relationship/marriage breaks up - its happened to pretty much most of us at one time or another and as hard as it might seem now its really not the end of the world. I was devastated when my last relationship broke up - i didnt really care if i woke up in a morning, but eventually i got my act together and my chin off the floor and made myself happy with myself again. Not long after a chance meeting with my now partner Liz changed my entire world and i've never been happier - that was 7 glorious years ago.
Chin up, you never know whats around the corner, you might bump into the love of your life one day when you least expect it.
All the best, hope you find happiness - we all deserve some.
xx
2006-10-03 10:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by thecoldvoiceofreason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope. Look at me, older than dirt, 2 failed marriages, 5 kids in three states and got a younger woman that's totally nuts about me. (Why, I don't know) Don't fret about being a 'loser" because of a failed marriage. It happens to almost everyone. You'll meet a new guy. Beware of the guy that used your kids to get to you. Just think about what you need to do. Take care of yourself and take care of your kids. That's all. A new boyfriend might distract you from what's really important. Good luck!
2006-10-03 10:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in case you come across out enable me comprehend. I particularly have 2 failed marriages myself. My first husband (married 7 years) i presumed i could be with continuously and medicines took him from me. He chosen drugs over his family individuals and now 13 years later he remains choosing drugs. 2nd marriage (married 10 years) we've been basically 2 people headed in 2 diverse guidelines. I particularly have a boyfriend that has question me to marry him yet i've got not given him an answer yet. He says the third time is the attraction. My respond replaced into 3 strikes your out.... i assume it is almost a sh!tty attitude to have. Any way i wish you come across happiness...
2016-10-18 10:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! You are hurting right now and that's okay. It won't last forever. You need to surround yourself with people who love and care for you. Kids are great for regaining confidence. They make you realize what's really important. You will find love again when you are ready and when you give yourself permission to. You are great, you're a mom! Good luck, keep your head up! I wasn't married legally but basically was anyway and i have a child. I have a good idea of what you're saying. It's hard, but it's true, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.
2006-10-03 10:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by fusillicandace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋