my husband harrased me each day during third trimester of pregnancy coz i gained lot of weight(25kgs) and he would not let me eat things i wanted to.he used to make fun of me all the time and i was very depressed. he used to come home frm job and asked me what i ate all day instead of asking how i was doing.
now i have lost all the weight and got my figure back AND he has gained weight. now i feel like harrassing him and make fun of him. i m not able to forget those things he said to me then when i needed his care and attention the most. he is behaving normal and appreciates me for loosing weight. but i want to make him realize hoe it feels. is this feeling evil? pls help me out!!!!
2006-10-03 10:12:08 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all congratulations on losing all the weight!
As far as your husband, I'd do it just once. I'd say, "Well, Tubby, how does it feel now?" Then I'd not say another word about it. He'll get the drift.
2006-10-03 10:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wake up ritu!Your husband is a gem if he has taken so much care of you during your pregnancy!It is but natural.Dont overthink about this.This isnt harassing, for a normal person this is pure love!This doesnt mean that you are evil. You are just a little too fed up of the way he used to frequently enquire of your eating habits. You would feel a lot better if you know that this kind of behaviour from a husband is quite rare. I myself am comitted right now and thats why i m telling you. It is hard to please you gals.
And as far as his getting overweight is concerned, talk to him in a playful manner,try out some new techniques like taking him to jogging every morning.(You should go with him), eat some healthy food, and make up a tidy yet comfortable, and I m specifically saying comfortable as guys can turn real sour if their work and personal space collide.So make it easy for him.Try this out.You wont believe the results.Msg me if you want some more advice. C ya
2006-10-03 14:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by sagar_apte2001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all sweet heart, it is natural, you will have a healthy baby from gaining your weight, you have lost it now though, do you get Malcolm in the middle there? TV it's really funny as the husband keeps putting extra cream sugar fat into the food he makes for his wife, why dont you do the same and he'll put more weight on, or have his trousers taken in by a tailor, make his shoes a size smaller and he'll soon get the message.
oh dear am I bad too?
ha ha ha
2006-10-03 11:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a bad person! But you really need a release to get over those hurtful feelings you had that have been bottled up inside you for some time. Practice your communication with him and let him know your feelings, if you don't see eye to eye then try to understand the differences and how to find a common ground. If nothing seems to help... get a lawyer and start thinking what a monthly child-support check can buy you.
2006-10-03 10:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfeyen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur husband may have read it somewhere bcoz gaining too much weight will also be aproblem during labour.maybe that can be the reason why he want u to eat less.so i think it is not big issue .i mean there are many problem women face in marriages.there's nothing wrong if u want to make him realise what u felt, but u can say this with little humour.tit for tat will not work here.marriage is other name of compromise and adjustment.
2006-10-05 03:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by simplewife20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U do so absolutly U R not a bad person. But U R not an intelligent wife too. Though ur feelings are common, U better tell him how U was harassed, how it pains U and make him realise his mistake. And U try to help him to loose his weight.
2006-10-03 12:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by abcdefg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all he he :-P
I'd hand him a salad and tell him "now U know how I felt" B4 U start slaggin him check there isn't a reason for the weight gain ie stress in work or similar :-) Then if OK makes up all his favourite desserts and don't offer them ... saying you're on a diet he he :-P
and then give him a big cuddle :-)
2006-10-03 10:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be mean to get back at him...
But he probably deserves it. I just wouldn't go too far with it. Men can be just as spiteful (if not more sometimes) as women. You could tease him a little bit (every now and then) but I wouldn't try to hurt his feelings. His feelings will be hurt enough when all of those guys start drooling over you. He won't be able to contain himself. He may even get a little jealous. So, don't over-do it.
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2006-10-03 10:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but maybe next time you could be a little calmer and explain to your husband how you felt when he was harrassing you. When HE gained the weight you should have told him that that is how you felt...If your husband truly loved you, then he wouldn't have cared what you looked like.
2006-10-03 10:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by ilovebasketball 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Purposefully trying to "get back" at the man you chose to marry by making hurtful remarks would probably not create a healthy environment for the child.
Instead, focus on being a good mother and a loving wife. You married him, so may as well make the best of it.
2006-10-03 10:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋