When I talked to his ex, she said they had been messing around for a few weeks and she ended up pregnant, but got an abortion cuz he told her about me. When I asked him he denied everything. We've been broken up since April 06 and now were back together. But I feel that I can't trust him anymore and our relationship is not the same. I still feel that he messong around with his ex and other girls too. I really want to be with him, not to mention we have a child together. I'm feeling this bad vibe when I talk to him over the phone and when I'm around him. I just don't know what to do.
2006-10-03 10:02:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
An ex should always stay an ex in situations like the one you described.
There is no trust in your relationship. There will just be more heartache if you stay with him.
2006-10-03 10:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST YOUR GUT! Move on girl! If your gut says it's bad then it is. Find a way to let him go and work out the daddy details of visitation and forget the rest. You will find the right guy one day. How many times does he need to cheat before you catch something from one of them or dumb him for good? Be good to you since he won't. You don't need to find out about another girl after the baby is here and have a nasty fight in front of the baby when you can aviod all that now. A cheater can still be a good father not a boyfriend. He's selfish and maybe being alone will change him or not. Your choice to gamble, I don't think he cares.
2006-10-03 10:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Baby girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you get bet bakc with him because of the baby? fi you didn big mistake. You should have stayed by yourelf. Child support is always good. My son's fatehr and i wen through something similar. I fould out he was mesing around behind me when iw as 6 months pregnant but with a new girl.. We broke up so he can be with her. 1 month after we broke up- she got pregnant too. Tried to abort was too late- baby was too big by then. My child is 3 1/2 and born jan his other child was born in may same year. If i were you- i'd leave him. Especially because it was with a n ex. He's probably screwing her right now.
2006-10-03 10:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by mari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater is a bunch of crap. However if you don't feel the same sensation for this individual, who put your health and life on the line by cheating on you, then for your peace of mind GET OUT!! If you love him and he is committed to talk openly with a mediator(does have to be a counsellor) just some one who is impartial then give the both of you an opportunity to get over this..good luck
2006-10-03 10:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Davis M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it ever occured to you that maybe his ex was telling you this because she was hurt by him and now she just wants to cause trouble?
Unless you have proof positive that he's messing around on you (for example pictures or witnessing it yourself), don't do anything rash. If you feel you could not trust him, then you are better off breaking off the relationship.
2006-10-03 10:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow alot of drama! The thing with a mate cheating is the one cheated on (you) have to decide if they are going to forgive because ain't no such thing as forgetting. However throwing it up or being insecure or showing it (because cheating causes insecurity) isn't good it will come a time when you must decide if you can get past it all, and 1 tip, his actions will let you know if he is over it! Good luck and be strong for your baby!
2006-10-03 10:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by shawtypimp2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you can't get past this & why should you he was the one that broke the trust issue. Just remember that without trust there is no relationship. As for you wanting to stay with him bcuz of your baby, that never works out the baby is the one who is going to suffer. Good luck.
2006-10-03 10:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say " womans intuition" Lets look at this realistically...can you trust his ex? Maybe you should confront him in front of her? If you are getting a bad vibe then trust your instincts. Stop seeing him, if he wants to be in the baby's life great but that doesnt mean you have to be with him.
2006-10-03 10:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is no trust in the relationship, you can go no where from there. If he has cheated on you before and lied multiple times, chances are you are probably better off going your seperate ways. leave him girl. And i know having a child with him is not easy, but let him know that you still expect him to be RESPONSIBLE father to your kid, even if he's not respectful to you.
2006-10-03 10:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by ALI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is difficult to get back under the best of circumstances. You don't need him to help you raise your child. If you are back with him because of the child, I believe you are wrong. You have plenty of options. Do not settle for this male skank.
Good Luck,
O'hock
2006-10-03 10:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by orcahock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋