My ex and I started seeing each other when I was 14 ( i broke up with him for no reason). When I was 15 we went back together( i broke up with him for a good reason). Now I'm 21 and I want him back, I've realized that I don't want anybody else( if that means being single for the rest of my life). I told him I want him back, he said we could talk and see how things go. I don't know how to get through to him, to show him it could work.
2006-10-03 09:17:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its called a break up because its broken... you have mending to do.. take it slow.. he said you could talk about it, thats a start... don't rush this time... you are both older than 14 or 15... this time you are both adults, and have alot to offer... you just need to go about it the right way...
2006-10-03 09:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have totally been in your situation before. My first heart felt relationship I was in, started when I was also 14 years old. He was just turning 16. He and I had the same type of relationship you had; the break ups and the getting back together; I was looking for the greener pastures. The difference in our relationship was we did this relationship dance for many more years. He asked me to marry him when I was 19, I was not ready. I blew him off . He ended up getting married to someone else 2 years later. I was devistated; my safety net was gone. Then I got real stupid, of course I thought sleeping with him the night before his wedding would get him back. He and I both cried; we knew even though we loved each other we had been together for the last time. He kept telling me that it took him committing to someone else for me to pay him the attention he always wanted from me. Well, to make a long story short. It took me 7 years to get over him, but I did meet a man that was even better for me, I got married. My ex and I ran into each other by accident one day, and we are now great platonic friends, but we will always and forever have a special place in our hearts for each other. I said all of this to say to you; if it is meant for the both of you to be together, it is going to happen. My suggestion is to focus on you, live your life find something else creative to do with your thoughts other than thinking about ways to get him back. I did that, and I wasted 7 years of my life. If in the mean time you find someone else who really likes you... go for him. Life does go on, there are always second chances for love. Sometimes it's not with that person you thought it would be with either.
2006-10-03 16:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always said "they are ex boyfriends for a reason" especially if you broke up with him... why would you want him back? Just like they tell you in the answers... Go forward, not backwards... and if he is willing to work it out, then give him whatever time he needs... just tell him how you feel and that's all he needs to know until he is ready. I don't think it should be just cuz you want to, since you are the one that broke up with him.
Give him time, be patient!
2006-10-03 16:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like when you met him you both were young but now that you're growm- things have changed. Maybe he dowsn't want to be with you and wants to meet new people. I think you should go on with your life. My mother alwasy told me- when i person's had enough- THEY"VE HAD ENOUGH! and there's nothing you can do to get him back. No matter how beautiful you are- even if you have the greatest looking body- whe the guys doesn't want you- that's how it REALLY IS. You sound like a really nice, sweet girl- i'm sure you can find someone else who will love and appreciate you!
2006-10-03 16:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by mari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six years is a long time and you guys are not together after six years, there must be a reason for that. But still all you can do. Tell him that you love him and care about him with out begging or crying. It will work if you both love each other still.
2006-10-03 16:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im in sort of the same type of place with my ex only thing is I havent told him how I felt. I think I still really like him. What you should do is tell him how you really feel. Letting him know this might move thing along. Hey I think I should take my own advice. Good luck!
2006-10-03 17:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by Britters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push it or you will push him away. Just let him know how you feel and that your feelings for him are strong and aren't going to change. Start to spend time together and get back that friendship and then move on from there. A good relationship is built on an amazing friendship!
2006-10-03 16:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just like you at a point of time.
I wanted my ex back.
But u have to realize that it's never going to be the same because of the time frame that you were apart.
You both have changed, but u won't notice unless your relationships starts!
but good luck anyways!
2006-10-03 16:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by stress77mulah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just play the waiting game if thats what it takes, if you really want him back then play the game too.
he will see that you really do want him back with the little conversations yous two have, and just hope for the best out of it.
2006-10-03 16:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by ***dreamcatcher**** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice would be for u guys to start hanging out alot more and instead of telling him u can show him that u are ready for that kind of commitment and then he will be able to see that u have changed and he will mostlikely give u another chance
2006-10-03 16:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by muthafaka8o8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋