Why do women always hate me?!?

Question

I'm just sick of it and find myself longing for female companionship, especially being a mom. I am a friendly person (maybe too friendly), and think I come off o.k. Maybe I look wierd, cause I dye my hair platinum, and wear alot of eyeliner? To me its not wierd, but maybe to others, I don't know. It seems I always get the once over, and from then on am looked down upon. Women explain please? Previous to my marriage I hung out with guys, but obviously I had to change that. I'm not a man stealer, a snob, I'm not unattractive, I just don't understand.

Answer 1

What do you mean by that you come off as "too friendly"? I wear alot of eyeliner and have bleached blonde hair and I don't have too many problems finding friends. Perhaps you shouldn't focus on what might be wrong with you but rather where and whom you are seeking as friends. Try to get involved in the community such as volunteering or try out some classes such as yoga or a college course that you find interesting or even groups such as book clubs, etc. I am sure that you will find friends if you put yourself out there more into the social circle. Good luck:)

Answer 2

I doubt it has to do with the way you look, although I guess that depends where your looking for friendship. To have friends you must be a friend. I understand what your going through. I dont have many friends myself and I am very friendly. But having kids takes away alot of time and people know that, they assume that. Maybe you could find someone around you that also has kids and is single. The one thing that starts friendships is something that you have in common. Good uck to you hun, from one single mom to another....

Answer 3

You know what i think the same thing too, women do not know how to be good friends and they are back stabbers and keniving as well. That's why the few girl - friends that i have i treasure because they are not that way at all. Most women are envious and jealous of what you have and want it for themselves but hate you for having it.. wether it be men, looks, sucess or even have a sense of style... I don't get it either.. it's sad ... men have a better comdrodery than women do. When i got engaged some of my friends got upset and got distant with me and one girlefriend in particular after i got a boob job she wa so mad at me and called me an OC snob and that this changes our relashionship... What on earth is going on here??? It's like me telling her ... you wear that T-shirt it changes everything between us.. so stupid and then after that she asked me if she is going to be one of my brides maides ???? are you kidding me?? I'm not looking to get attention and i'm engaged to be married, all my life i had small breats and wanted to get something deacent and not too much for me and my Fiancee too and so i can look good in my wedding dress in May.... So i cut all ties with the weird ones and the good friends that i have are my brides maides at my wedding. Girl friend i feel your pain... i'm not snobby or bitchy or any of that. I'm down to earth and i love life and what it has to offer.. haters have no room in my life....

Answer 4

i think u answered your own question,,sometimes women see an attractive lady that's sure of herself and become threatened by what they really don't know..it is so common we judge people by what we see and not what we know don't feel bad there are alot of women that feel the same way (minus the platinum hair and the eye liner) I have no female friends at all and have come to accept that.....it does get hard sometimes because my guy friends sometimes don't have the answer.just hang in there it will eventually turn around i hope

Answer 5

You could be attractive and therefore intimidating. People don't like to look bad around someone else. I know someone who totally hates her roommate because she's pretty, open minded, smart, and has a great job. A horrible reason to hate someone, but that's the way some people think.

Answer 6

I know how you feel. I have had problems making good girl friends for a long time. Some girls may view you as competition...they might be intimidated by you. If you are a nice person then anybody who doesn't want to be your friend is not worth it. You will find a good friend...don't worry.

Answer 7

I got the same problem with guys.

I can't dress nice and be good looking without other men sizing me up or wanting to compete with me. I think it's a society thing--people just tend to be jealous of people that have a good grip on their situation.

One other problem with making friends that are the same sex is that you can't just walk up to someone and say, 'let's hang out'--they'll think you're interested in them (gay). Like, after you've had children and have been through a divorce, you're lucky if you've got a friend or two that's in a similar situation. Most of my friends are either married or have moved out of state.

Keep doing what feels right. And if you're in Upstate New York, look me up--I'll hang out with you!

Answer 8

Well...if you are all that you say you, then I really don't understand what the problem is. Who cares what you look like. Do you have any friends at all that could perhaps observe and evaluate what it is that maybe turning off potential friends? Do you work as well?

Answer 9

Well let me tell you honey ain't nothin wrong w/being different. Women r jealous and Hangin w/men will gain a very undeserved reputation. I myself hang w/guys yet am a very attractive female also a lesbian. So what's to understand? Women are very fickle. Have a good day....................................

Answer 10

I dont know you but if you want the truth just by looking at your pic you look like you are the snobby and into yourself type.I hope Im completely wrong but thats`s what husband and myself seen in your pic.