My wife and I have been together for 5 years and married for 2.
She is 24 and I am 26 and we are planning our first baby.
About a year ago we decided we wanted a baby, so we have been traveling a lot, spending extra time around kids, and preparing other way (replaced my car with a safer one, training our dog to be kid friendly, and doing home improvements, etc.)
We are financially set now as we finished school, bought a house, and landed stable careers a few years ago that we actually love.
We feel prepared because we are happy in our marriage and we know we are financially, mentally and emotionally stable for a family.
We really wanted to have our ducks in a row before conceiving, and we know 2007 is the year for us to have our baby!
How did you know you were prepared as a couple to have a baby?
2006-10-03 09:12:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't. Life is very unexpecting. Even when you think you are ready life will through something at you to bring you down. It really is up to you to decide if the other would make a good parient for your child.
2006-10-03 09:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids and I still don't think we're prepared hehe!
On a more serious note, I think the desire to love and the financial means to care for the child are really the only two things that are "necessary." If you keep thinking that you need to have all your ducks in a row, many times you'll find that you have to wait a lonnng time - I have friends who finally gave up the idea of being prepared because every year it was something else! But guess what - their kids are happy, they're happy.
The only other thing that I'd say would be important would be to make sure it's a safe environment - training your dog and getting a bigger/safer car are great ideas. It sounds like you guys are there! I wish you the best in your pursuit of a child.
You will be absolutely stunned at how in love you are all over again - and at how you really were never prepared ;)
**************Baby dust your way!******************
2006-10-03 16:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to feel prepared is to know that it won't be about you anymore, emotionally, mentally, financially, you and your wife both come second to the baby....other than trying to deal with that, you can only prepare yourself so much until you actual deal with it, being a parent is something that mostly comes with learning while your doing it.....but if your ready(mature enough to handle it) it the most rewarding thing someone that wants it can ever do, the key is being able to find the little rewards when your patience is about to run out....babies don't give love they take it, you have to be mature enough to find the love in little ways, the small things, and then after that kids give love.............
2006-10-03 16:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by angesky2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We knew that although we loved each other, there was a void in our life, and we knew that a child would fill it. We tried for over a year before we got pregnant. But I will tell you that if you wait to have all of your ducks in a row before conceiving, you would NEVER get pregnant. You just have to do it when it feels right for you and your spouse.
2006-10-03 21:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if you both are finacial and mentaly stable then thats a start.I really dont believe there is a true way to know when you are ready for a baby.Most people who has had kids are divorced or in a miserble relationship.
2006-10-03 16:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were older and before we got married, we knew we wanted kids right away. Over Labor Day weekend, 2002, I finished my month of birth control pills and we decided together that I would stop taking them from that moment forward. We found out we were pregnant on New Year's Eve!
2006-10-03 16:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prepared? Yeah right. Parenting is always full of surprises. You can never be prepared to be a parent. You just have to be ready to accept anything life throws your way. Love your children and be prepared for anything.
2006-10-03 16:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by girlajeepin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both have prepared as much as you can. Being a parent has many rewards. Good luck and have fun!
2006-10-03 16:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are always 100% prepared.......something always goes wrong and you have to excpect the unexpected to happen,
2006-10-03 16:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by its just me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATULATIONS YOU ARE THE FIRST QUESTION THAT WASN'T DYSFUNCTIONAL.
KUDOS TO YOU AND YOURS!!!!!!!
2006-10-03 16:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋