We were together 11 and married 7. She cheated on me and ended up leaving me for him after being with him for 3 months. It's been a month since she left and we've talked a few times about hooking up once in a while for some no strings attached fun. She admitted that she thought about it once and a while and said that she needed to ponder it a little more. Here in the last week she has been extra flirty and I think she has made up her mind. As much as I want to pay him back for what they did, I am struggling with weather I should stoop to her level or not. Please advise!!!!!!
2006-10-03 09:11:00 · 21 answers · asked by hrtizbrkn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't do it. She's not worth it. She left you and now wan't to cheat with you. That's odd. Don't stoop to her level.
Move on!
2006-10-03 09:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first time a significant other cheats is usually a good time to head for the exit, but while it takes a lot of healing and rebuilding of trust, there are relationships that are capable of surviving infidelity. A second indiscretion, however, leaves no grey area. Even if it were never to happen again, you’re either committing yourself to a sentence of distrust and suspicion or compromising a substantial level of your self-respect by staying with her. If you know she’s strayed again—even if it was only a kiss, even if he’s truly, completely and excruciatingly sorry—it’s over. And if it’s you whose attention has wandered, it’s time to admit that this isn’t working for you. When you cheat on a loved one you cheat yourself of a partnership that is whole and honest; you’re better off looking for someone who can hold all of your attention.
2006-10-03 09:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize she's your wife... you are married, once you promise till death do us part, there's no going back....so its perfectly normal for a married couple to have some fun...
but I don't think stooping to that level is a good idea... besides it won't be no strings attached, its only been a month.. this could really hurt you.. maybe her... maybe she'd come back to you and leave him... but idk... you really need to think this through.... you are treating each other like hunks of meat by just having sex for the fun of it.... you married each other because you loved each other, not to just mess around... i know she cheated and left, but still.... this is a messy situation
2006-10-03 09:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stooping to her level would not be the wisest decision to make. In doing so, you make life more complicated and allowing your body to be used as a tool for revenge. If I were you, I would cut my ties from her and move on. Sounds to me like you both have some growing up to do and are confused on what you both want. Re-evaluate yourself and the relationship that you have with her and ask yourself what you want and go from there. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-03 09:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stoop to her level. She would be getting everything that she wanted and more without any consequences. Tell her she is really not worth your time and move on. There are better woman than her. Why do you even have her on your mind after what she did to you. Move on.
2006-10-03 09:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real question is first of all after such a long time invested with someone, Can you have a no strings attached anything with this person? Can you be physcial with her knowing she going to be with him also? And besides isn't that kind of undignifying after she left you, for some guy she knew all of three months, leave that chick alone and besides if your have moral issues with it then the answer would be no, you have to live with the choices you make, no one else............
2006-10-03 09:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by angesky2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eye for an eye fixed makes the international bypass blind. i do not get those who not in any respect record. I understand "loose speech", yet hate speech which contain racist, homophobic assaults and different slurs must be pronounced. there's a suitable to loose speech, yet there's a suitable to exist devoid of being called a n.gger. I say record who you sense you want to record, yet reporting non violations out of spite gained't help concerns, in my view. both way, it really is difficult. you're in reality being centred out of spite. i imagine some human beings have self belief they are doing some thing good by skill of sitting in the back of a computing device and reporting all day and all evening.
2016-11-26 01:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see she crushed you by cheating on you and now she wants to know if she can still use you up a little more. Boy that is a hard decision. Do you think she is maybe just a lil selfish?
2006-10-03 09:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know what you would invite back into your life. Now, if you cant do better or dont mind having a trashy, untrustworthy wife, be our guest. But once you do so, you have given up any right to complain about how she acts or to be mad when she does it again. If you dont mind being used, I dont mind.
2006-10-03 09:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what he really has to do with her deciding to leave you. It seems to me she wasn't happy & if it weren't him it would have been someone else. Why aren't you bothered by the fact she is able to treat people she cares about this way? And if you do this....what if he could care less...can you? My advice would be do yourself a favor and make yourself feel better by turning HER down. You have control of what you do with your life....personally I would totally cut her loose....who needs this kind of drama?
2006-10-03 09:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋