I been in this relationship with this chick for about three months now...she has a profile on MYSPACE and ive been getting this gut feeling about that site and her. So last night she gave me her password and i got a little noisy and checked her mail and it had a convo between her and this other guy and he was saying nasty things to her and she really wasnt fighting him off....what should i do ya'll.
2006-10-03 09:10:32 · 17 answers · asked by sltsinsin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to use your best judgement on what types of things were said. If they were just casually talking, I would keep my ears open for things in the future, but if they were talking about meeting up and what not, I would break things off with her. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, and USUALLY once a cheater always a cheater. Even if the conversation wasn't that serious, if you know you can't trust her, it's time to say goodbye; every relationship is built on trust, without trust you have nothing. Hope all goes well and I'm sorry to hear about the incident!
2006-10-03 09:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually...I've had the same thing happen...Be happy she's ignoring him, some people just arn't confrentational and maybe she doesnt want the back talk from what he'd say back... If you really have a problem with it, send him a message saying you nor your girlfriend appreciate the comments, but dont be rude and try to swear at him acting all macho, chances are that would upset him and your girlfriend.
On the other hand if your not sure wether or not she's writing anything back, talk to her... That always seems to work... chances are if she gets really defensive and angry that she was... Talking works wonders...you'd be suprised
2006-10-03 16:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by el_huevo_de_la_noche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's never a good thing to snoop, you generally only find out things you wish you never knew. That said, when were these e-mails sent? Recently? Does she even respond to them? She may not know what to do to fend this guy off. All you can do is ask her to be honest with you about it, and say you are concerned about her, otherwise you wouldn't have checked the e-mails. I hope you can work things out!
2006-10-03 16:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't confront her on the email because you had no business reading it. BUT, you can confront her on how she feels about you. Ask her if she's happy being with you. You can ask her if she talks to other guys (don't mention myspace) the way she talks to you. Let HER tell you. If she doesn't, then you need to decide if your willing to stay with someone who hides these things!
2006-10-03 16:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, She's a big girl and can handle it herself. You werent suppose to be snopping in the first place. I dont think she'd be happy to know that your checking her email (but then again she did give you the password).
Just stay out of it until she askes for your help.
2006-10-03 16:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u might ask her nicely, if this words that guy told her, not affect her, and after her answer u will know if u back off or help her to fight.
2006-10-03 16:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by neramira 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump her. I don't think you want someone who flirts with other guys or cheats on you. At this point, you don't have a lot invested into this relationship. If it goes on longer, you'll lose a lot more.
2006-10-03 16:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Listen to her side. If she gave you her password she wasn't worried about you finding anything to get upset about. Good Luck!
2006-10-03 16:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop her ***....if she wasnt tellin him to stop or anything she is bound to cheat....my advice get out while you can....she cxant be trusted...Myspace almost ruined my relationship too....i didnt fight off a guy...instead i cheated on my b/f....i got lucky though & he forgave me.....either make her choose the site or you....or find someone you can trust
2006-10-03 16:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her you do not like the fct that see is talking to another man o the internet. If it was me I would be mad myself so let her know how you feel.
2006-10-03 16:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by ebonikaf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋