Well, my boyfriend had been living together for almost 2 years. A few months ago, I lost my job and now he's the only breadwinner. I felt EXTREMELY being at home all day while he pays for all the bills and I'm unable to contribute. Mind you, I'm avidly searching for a job. It's taking a while. So, I returned to my mom's home and I'll be there until I get a job. I don't think I had a choice? What do u guys think?
2006-10-03 09:10:27 · 7 answers · asked by ginathom2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Either way someone is supporting you in your time of need. Your mother and boyfriend both obviously love you very much and will do what they can to help you get back on your feet. Some questions which I have would be: How did your boyfriend feel about you "being at home all day while he pays for all the bills..."? I mean, did he talk down to you or anything like that or was he supportive, knowing you are actively seeking employment? If he was supportive, I don't really think you HAD to move out, as that's what couples do, they are a support system to love and nurture eachother.
It's the same thing your mother is doing... helping you through a rough time.
I don't think you really have anything to feel guilty about if you are in-fact avidly searching. As long as you know that and he knows that, that's all that should matter.... but ultimately, you are a grown up and you know your heart and intentions. If you feel better at home with your mother, for whatever reason, do what makes you feel comfortable : ) But, if he's a good man, he probably didn't want you to leave at all : )
2006-10-03 09:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aslong as your bf is happy iwith it, I wouldn't worry.
Just make sure you get all the housework done, and cook him a nice dinner.
He'd still have to pay all the bills if you left, so just make his life easier by taking care of the house till you find a job.
2006-10-03 16:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship isn't that serious by all means bail out and live with mom. You would be saving him a couple of dollars right? On the other hand, how you react now could be a good indicator on how you would react in a marriage situation.
2006-10-03 16:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lazarus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your boyfriend was tripping because you weren't contributing to the cause you should have stayed. If you are seriously looking for a job, it will happen. Good luck.
2006-10-03 16:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetbabygurl318 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that was a great idea. That way your boyfriend can't use that he payed for everything against you later on.
2006-10-03 16:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your boyfriend and see how he feels. He might be ok with both.
2006-10-03 16:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to your b/f money is only a small part of a relationship there will be times when you will need to suport him
2006-10-03 16:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋