Over the last 31/2 years I have been romantically involved with a man 13 years older than me. Our relationship started out as a fling but over time we both developed strong feelings for one another. We are both divorced, he has two children and I have none. I want children/child of my own and he does not want anymore. We have tried continuing a relationship while dating other people but it just gets to emotional. A few month ago I started dating and met a really great guy. At that time my ex-boyfriend poured his heart out to me and said he was willing to have a child with me. Surprised but hesistant I brushed off my new man and went back to him. We recently discussed the baby thing again and now he does not want one. I am now back to dating. He shows up where I go out, he has stopped by unexpectantly, and talks to my friend constantly about me. Don't get me wrong I still care about him but don't know what to think about his behavior! Help?
2006-10-03 09:04:06 · 4 answers · asked by Lisa Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you really want to have a child, then you need to move on. He will not change his opinion. And if he does agree to have a kid just to keep you, then in the end he could possibly end up resenting the kid. Tell him, if he cares about you, he will let you go and find happiness elsewhere. If he's really stalking you, then you need to get a restraining order! Best of luck!
2006-10-03 09:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ex = the older guy who has two kids?
It sounds to me like he only said he'd be willing to have a kid with you because that was what he knew he'd have to say to get you back. And once he had you again, he thought he could revert to his no-kid philosophy and you'd still stick around for whatever else he had to offer.
Cut and clear; you're just going to keep tearing yourself up if you harbor feelings for this one.
2006-10-03 16:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how this is complicated. He wants to keep having sex with you, and doesn't want to have children, and he is willing to lie to accomplish that goal. I hope he's not reading this, because I don't want to give him any ideas, but, it wouldn't surprise me if he went and got a vasectomy without telling you, and then married you, promising you children.
2006-10-03 16:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to be around you. He will never want kids so you need to move on to someone who can sire a child with you
2006-10-03 16:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋