Should I even worry about it? Ok I have a very close friend who just moved in with her best friend (whom I hardly speak to now). The sun rises and sets on this BF. I can say the moon is white. If the BF tells my friend no the moon is red and tells her why, she will believe it. Everybody is wrong except the BF(that is how it seems). She has placed her BF on a pedestal. Whose job is it to knock her off that thing? In all honesty I re-evaluated myself before even coming to this conclusion. I don't like this situation, but I don't know how to tell her as a friend without looking jealous or like a hater.
2006-10-03 09:02:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
BF-means best friend in my question.
sorry for the confusion
2006-10-03 09:09:17 · update #1
and we all have known each other for years, they have known each other longer
2006-10-03 09:16:29 · update #2
It's no one's job to knock her off the pedastal. Here's the deal... eventually, the best friend is going to say the wrong thing, they live together now right? Well, when people live together, it's only a matter of time before they grate on each other's nerves. DO NOT intervene, don't speak negatively about the best friend. Pretend you think she's great too (to your friend). Just be a friend to her, the same as it's always been. Slow and steady wins the race. Don't misunderstand - there are no real "winners" in this situation, but all Im saying is be there as you have always been. When this new best friend shows her ugly side, as we all do eventually, your friend will realize that she is no better than anyone else and come back down to earth. And when she comes back down to earth - who will be there for her? YOU!
2006-10-03 09:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation happens a lot. Sometimes it seems as if someone new comes along, and poof, all the old loyal friends are gone. I understand how you trying to say anything could sound jealous. Why don't you talk to your friend, and let her know that you feel less close to her, and you would like to change that. And eventually, if your friend is idolizing this BF, there is going to be a letdown. You have to be there for your frined, but also talk to the BF. Don't loose hope, but all you can really do is talk, and hope that your frend still listens. Good luck :)
2006-10-03 09:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jen M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, anyone who tries to help her see this person as he really is going to be considered a "hater". He is near perfect in her eyes and she is the only one who can realize his imperfections, in time she will see this but it sounds like right now she is blinded by "love"?
Be a good friend and stick around for when she needs you the most.
2006-10-03 09:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to let her relationship run it's course. There comes a time in peoples lives where having a serious relationship becomes more important than just hanging around with your old buddies....give her space....be there to catch her if she falls....thats what a friend does.
2006-10-03 09:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like you are jealous.When someome is in love they will slightly push their friends to the side for a little while until they are settled in their relationship.She thinks the world of her bf,um.........wheres the problem? Just back off and give them space and if you had a true friendship with her she will come to you after she is settled in her life.
2006-10-03 09:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't worry... her boyfriend will knock himself off the pedestal soon enuff. if you did step to her, she would think you were jealous or hatin on their relationship. sit back and watch the shet unfold. be there for her, she is really going to need her friends when reality kicks in.
2006-10-03 09:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by Niecy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is to just not be around her. Eventually she'll call and ask why you are no longer around and then you need to politely tell her that you felt that you didn't feel wanted, needed or appreciated since she started seeing his guy and that you didn't want to ruin any chance she had at a happy relationship with him so you decided the best thing to do would be to just quietly bow out.
that will open it up for her to ask you more and then you need to politely address the issues.
2006-10-03 09:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just start in a way that you are just concern with her because she is your best and you dont want her to go the wrong path.. if youve been with your bestfriend for a long time then you must know which words irritate her and in what manner she must be talked to..
2006-10-03 09:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmmmmmm... she is madly in love so forget helpin her at the moment, stay with her, and nail as sooon u find a chance... but watch out dont nail your on reputation...wait for the right chance...they arrive for sure... :)
2006-10-03 09:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Gangsta K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let the newness wear of the new friend...and things will change if not start looking for a new friend...
2006-10-03 09:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by turner32542 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋