My wife went to movies with another guy, he kissed her is that cheating. she is confised?

Question

I have been married for about 4 years and we have had our fights. I
have said some very horrible things to my wife and so did she. But she
said she can not forget whatever I said. We've even hit each other.
She met an old friend at a bar who also had troubled marriage and they
both decided to talk to 2 guys they met. Her friend ended up having
sex but my wife ended up having an affair. She did 2000 text messages
to him in last 2 months. She even called him all the time in friend of
me and preteneted it was her friend. She went out with the guy with a
few times and he even kissed her once. She even watched 2 movies with
him. She tells me he makes her feel nice. He is charming and all that
and she realises that it might be a few days charm. She is confused
and can not give up the past. She tells me to go sometimes and
sometimes tells me that she loves me. The guy is 26 and divorced. I
don't know how could she trust him after about 4 years with me

Answer 1

She's confussed, i wish you were my hubby

Answer 2

Well your question was is it cheating? IMHO it is cheating if she is feeling things toward him that a woman should only feel towards her husband. And secondly what difference does it make if technically it is or is not cheating, I mean if webster called you and said it is not cheating then would it all be okay. I would say that you need consuling. I am sure she is confused, here is a guy that makes her feel special again and then there is you that she is secure with. Just dont be a fool and let her have both worlds, make her decide to go or stay right now not give me some time to figure it out. If she really loves you she will stay, if not then your true soulmate is out there waiting for you to find her.

Answer 3

She seems to have better connection with that guy than with you. Even though there is no sex, that's bad for your marrieage if you guys want to be married to each other. If that's unacceptible to you, you don't have to figure out if it's called cheating or not, just explain it to her that that's unnaceptible because it makes you feel sad. You both should think do you guys want to be married to each other and why. After that, if the answer is yes, both of you should give up the past. If that doesn't happen, you might as well divorce, or else you'll be miserrable for a few more years and divorce anyway. Try to understand what makes you happy, what makes your wife happy and give it one more try to be there for each other. She should be there for you too, not with that other guy.

Answer 4

Well?? I hate to pull her blankets but if she has been seeing this guy like this there is a 99.9.5% chance that she already has had relations with him. You need to move on. That is the only way you will ever know if she loves you. Don't you see that it is only obvious that she has moved on. Separate. You cant stop what is happening so save your emotions, words, and integrity for your self. Any woman that acts this way and uses past situation just to justify her being with another man is weak. Just stand up and walk out and move on. I have been there bro. I know what I am saying because I have lived it. If you hang on you are only going to bring more hurt to yourself..

Answer 5

He "kissed" her? With 2000 text messages, you better be sure there was more than "kissing" going on. Sounds like your marriage is in deep trouble, and the "other guy" should be the least of your worries. Of course it's "cheating" to have an affair while you're still committed to another. But this affair is only a manifestation of a deeper trouble.

Answer 6

Your wife is cheating on you. It doesn't have to be sex to be cheating.

It sounds like your marriage is in trouble. You should tell he she needs to stop seeing the guy and go with you for some counseling. Or she should make a decision on whether she wants to stay married and or go out with other guys.

Answer 7

You all need to divorce. You are both abusive physically and emotionally and it's not going to get any better.

The new guy makes her feel good because you both make each other feel bad.

Get out of it. If you saw this from an outside perspective, you would understand

Answer 8

She's not confused she's cheating. End the relationship or get into counseling. What... you don't make her feel nice, ever? Why aren't the two of you going to the movies instead of going out with friends????? Concentrate on making each other happy within the confines of your relationship or leave it.

Answer 9

i would say be very careful about how you react to this whole thing. she is cheating on you and you have to ask yourself, is this what i really want to spend the rest of my life with? if you have kids it will be harder on you, her, and them. if you don't you are doing a good job with that. keep positive, don't do anything crazy but if you do i give you props for kicking his a@@. your wife needs to be mature enough to stop and be faithful and honest to you and you need to be mature enough to not fight with her or hit her or whatever it is you'll do because women now and days will do what they want whether they are married or not. just try to talk to her more about it and don't let her ruin your life. i hope this helps some.

Answer 10

She is confised alright. I was confised last night myself. Yes, she is cheating. Time to move on. Confised yet?

Answer 11

Yes, she went out with the intentions to cheat...and she did. She may be confused but it's still no reason to cheat on u. If u have had issues with each other, the least u both could've done is work on them but instead she went out to look for "greener pastures".