I know someone who lost alot of weight and I think she looks great.
I want to ask her how she did it,but she's only an aquaintence or friend of a friend.Is this rude? I have her email and want to ask...
2006-10-03 08:48:50 · 21 answers · asked by crystal 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it would be a compliment.
2006-10-03 08:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think first you need to feel out the situation first. Some people view that sort of thing as inspirational and don't mind sharing the experience, but others may feel it's nobody's business. Email seems like the most private way to ask her, that way the conversation is just between the two of you. You should start by telling her how great she looks and relate your own need to do the same. But be sure to include an advance apology if she feels the question is an invasion of her privacy and let her know you understand if she doesn't want to discuss it. I think if you go about it that way, you'll get more positive results. My son's 4th grade teacher has lost weight and she looks good. When I saw her I told her how gorgeous she looked and then slipped in "what's your secret?" She was so flattered by the compliment that she gave me her entire diet and exercise routine and even invited me to join her at the gym sometime. I think there's just a way to approach people. Take care.
2006-10-03 15:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her. It's not rude, she may even be complimented by it. Just say "I've noticed all the weight you lost and you look great and i was wondering if you could give me any pointers." Losing weight is hard, if she can give you any pointers, I'm sure she would be more than glad to share.
2006-10-03 15:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it is rude. the person should be flattered that they look so great you want tips from them.
go ahead and email her, explain who you are since you are only aquaintences and say she looks really great and admire the work it must have taken and ask for some pointers
2006-10-03 15:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it is rude at all. Usually when a woman loses weight she is eager to share how she did it and how she feels about it. Losing weight is a hard thing to do. And when someone works as hard as they did to achieve their weight loss they usually are pleased when someone mentions it. It takes alot of strength and will power to overcome our bad habits. So when someone notices it, it just gives you more incentive to work harder.
2006-10-03 16:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by zero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not rude it's actually a compliment and they would be flattered you noticed and wanted to ask them how they did it.
2006-10-03 15:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No actually I don't think it would be rude at all. I think they would be flattered at being noticed. I would tell her she looks great, and I would love to know your secret on how you did it, care to tell?
2006-10-03 15:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Janine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to first start out with telling her how great she looks & you would like her advice as to how you can have the same wonderful results.
2006-10-03 15:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not rude to ask a question, and if she is proud about losing her weight she will not hesitate in giving you the answeres you seek so feel free to ask her.
2006-10-03 15:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you ask from a "Hey, you look great, whats your secret?" point of view that its okay. They will appreciate the compliment.
2006-10-03 15:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think she would be flattered if you went up to her and said that you had noticed that she looks incredible and asked that if she didn't mind, could you ask her how.
2006-10-03 15:53:38 · answer #11 · answered by David S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋