My husband apparently told his "girlfriend" that I wanted him to break up with her with me on the telephone. She told him she wouldn't do it. Quite frankly, I don't believe he even broke up with her since he "warned" her in advance. I think he's just saying he did simply to pacify me, as he was very irrate when I questioned him about the conversation he had with her.
Is it appropriate for me to contact this woman myself, or do I just let it go? By the way, I already told him it's over between us. I just want to see how far he can possibly go with all these lies.
2006-10-03 08:44:50 · 19 answers · asked by MaknMeCrzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let it go and move on, unless you like torturing yourself.
2006-10-03 08:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy dog lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, something is seriously wrong here. Number one your using the word, "girlfriend" in the same sentence as, "husband." And your asking if it is appropriate? H E L L O! If you already told him it was over between the two of you, then what does it say about you by continuing to play games with him. He's playing you and your girlfriend, the girlfriend is playing the both of you, sounds like all of you are into games. Put some
R E S P E C T back into your life, because he doesn't respect you by what he is doing. Stop the games. And get on with with your life. You don't need to see how far he can go with his lies...he's already crossed the line. And he knows this.
2006-10-03 09:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not appropriate for a man to do what he's doing. You first have to trust each before you can have anything. By you being on the phone when he called her, that shows that you don't trust him.
Don't call the girlfriend, because just like he warned her about the phone call. He has already told her some bad things about you to her. So don't waste you time. Don't entertain either one of them. Do what you need to do for yourself. If your serious about the relationship being over. Don't call him, trust me a man loves a strong woman. He will come back. Right now pray and trust God....lean on God for you own understanding.
2006-10-03 08:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by RLS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Husband? His girlfriend? Okay, I am lost here, if your husband has a girlfriend, you should be breaking something and it is not up with her and so what if he is lying? He is obviously a liar because he has a girlfriend and what could finding out if he is lying now going to do? You need to dump him like a bad habit and let her have him... She will never trust him, because she knows he cheated on you with her and that will forever be in the back of her mind...Call her and tell that she can have him, he is a cheater and you would never be able to trust him again anyhow. Don't fight with her or him, just move on, you can do much better...
2006-10-03 08:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Appropriate? Well, do you know her? Never mind. Here's the thing; You haven't let it go. If you're still wondering what he's doing, saying, cheating, you're still playing his game. I know it hurts, and talking to her might make you feel good for about 3 seconds, but then you're going to feel like crap.
99% of relationships that start out from adultery do not make it. He was probably looking for something he wasn't getting at home and lost total focus of what he was doing. Too late for him now. His lies are now for her to deal with them, let that be peace to you.
I'm sorry.
2006-10-03 08:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The situation has nothing to do with his girlfriend. If it's not this girl, it would be someone else. I wouldn't waste my breath contacting her. She is aware he is married and being very selfish and being involved with a married man. But the responsibility in this case is 100% in your husband's hands. You need to deal with him.
If it was me, I'd divorce him because I deserve to be treated with respect & love. I am too selfish to share my husband with anyone.
2006-10-03 08:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. She's trash and if you contact her, she'll just say something to upset you. Get far away from both of them. When they get together, they will cheat on each other and you'll have the last laugh HA HA
2006-10-03 08:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it isn't appropriate! Are you blind or something. A husband lying let alone cheating is just the worse of the worse!
2006-10-03 08:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can control yourself, contact her. Tell her you love him even though he is a habitual liar; has cheated several times and brought home STD's. Go on to tell her that...
Your hope is that he will join a group to help him with his sexual addiction.
2006-10-03 08:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pictures are worth thousands of words; and dollars if you have the right ones. If you are gonna play this game then shouldn't there be a prize?
2006-10-03 08:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how contacting someone is inappropriate. If you want to talk to her, talk to her. You sound American, so you do have freedom of speech. Be sure to tell her she can have the lying cheat because you have no further use for him.
2006-10-03 08:59:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋