I love him and he loves me too.I feel a bit embarased to be a virgin at the age 22.I know it's not a common thing thesedays but I don't know how to tell him that I want to wait till mariage.
How is he going to react?
What if he wants someone with experience?
Girls,what would you do?
And men how would you react?
2006-10-03 08:32:49 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should tell him, and not be embarrased about this. I see a strong young woman with a will and a determination here, he should respect that, and I hope for both of you that he will!
2006-10-03 08:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by julesloveslife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress yourself. You won't need to.
In love with him after 2 weeks, just tell him that and he will probably run for the hills. Mention both in the same sentence and he will probably leave the country!
What is wrong with young women to day? They are dafter now than 30 years ago. All that chat show fix your life in 50 minutes pop psychology. Follow it at your peril.
If your boyfriend was my son and came to me telling me his girl friend said what you did I'd either pay for him to leave the country or tell to shag you then dump you cos virgins don't come along like a number 10 bus. If nothing else that experience would make you develop a bit of character and backbone.
Some where in that pathetic whining little girl, there is the beginning of a truly strong woman after all that atom of character that you are trying to stifle has been strong enough to stay a virgin to 22. Or were you too scare to take that step before?
Listen to that voice and develop a sense of self. Maybe just maybe then you will learn enough about your self make your own good decisions based on what you need what nurtures you what builds you. You might then be ready for a man of equally strong character to love unconditionally.
2006-10-03 09:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its early dayz so you dont have to tell him yet, Im the same Im 21 and still a virgin but Im not waiting till marriage Im just looking for the right person, I think thats why I cant get close to a lad because I dont know how they will react when I tell them that Im a virgin...? It isnt common now as most of my friends have all got babies......Its a hard life lol <3
2006-10-03 08:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first wait till it gets to that point two weeks isn't very long. He shouldn't react oddly at all and if he does then he doesn't have the same values as you do regarding being a virgin. If he wants someone experienced well he can either leave or wait, why would you change your thoughts so quickly for a guy in two weeks? If he really cares and luvs you he'll wait.
2006-10-03 08:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by JoeP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to tell him, you've only known each other a couple of weeks?
Don't confuse attraction, excitement, romance and desire with love.
He hasn't yet earned the right to your most intimate secrets and whoever you think this guy is it 'ain't necessarily so.'
Just slow down and do not get caught up in the moment, if he is a genuine guy with genuine feelings for you that will emerge over time, if not he will start to get impatient at your hesitancy and your seeming reluctance to show you love him.
Just take your time, 'love' that blossoms too quickly usually dies just as fast, especially for the guys.
Remember we are by nature a predatory animal and often we will say and do whatever is necessary to get what we want.
Just take your time and if he can't then it's not love he has for you - good luck.
2006-10-03 08:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, if the guy reacts badly then he just isn't the one! Why are people so embarrassed about being virgins when the embarrassment should belong to the ones who sleep around? Save yourself for a man that's willing to wait, then you'll know you've got the real deal. Isn't it ironic, that guys like to sleep with the girls who have experience, but don't want to marry them?
I've heard of men that spend their lives sleeping with every Sarah, Jane and Sally, but then, when they feel they want to settle down, they waltz into the church to find someone pure. What a nerve!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-03 08:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
middle aged womans answer - Please don't be embarrased, being a virgin at your age is extremely admirable and in my opinion, not done often enough. I tell my teenagers that they should have sex when they are prepared to be parents. I had a family member die of AIDS, sex outside of a loving marriage is sooo not worth it.
How is he going to react? This will tell you alot about his motives and intentions for your relationship in general.
What is he wants someone with experience? You can't be something you're not so if he wants experience, you weren't meant for each other, plain & simple.
I have to add - I'm so pleased you're waiting. You won't be disappointed and neither will the lucky guy that "gets" you.
2006-10-03 08:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, in fact I'm 36 and I applaud you for it. Unfortunately men (as well as women) are very hard to predict. But if he feels the same way as you then your all set and everything will be fine. If you tell him you want to wait and he has a problem with it, or gets mad, then he's not worth your time and was probably only interested in the sex anyway. You should move on. "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission" ;-)
2006-10-03 08:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by webwriter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, then this will not be a problem for him at all. However, if he refuses to accept this or pressures you to have sex with him, then he isn't the man you thought he was. It is certainly nothing to be embarrassed about, especially in this day and age of promiscuity and diseases. It is kinda sweet that you feel your body and sex are so sacred that you want to wait. If he is the man of your dreams, it will be worth the wait!
Personally I don't believe in all that no sex before marriage, but having said that I did meet my guy at aged 15 and marry him at 19 so I didn't really get much chance! LOL!
2006-10-03 08:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the risk of sounding rude be very careful how you use the word 'love'. Trust me, after two weeks it isn't love, maybe the beginning of an affair but not love. Be straight with him and if the relationship is going to last the distance then he will respect your views. Don't be embarrassed, I'm glad there are still people out there that take it seriously, I wish I had!
2006-10-03 08:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by biaritzlounger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly loves you and respects you he will wait as long as you want and until you feel comfortable.remember being a virgin at 22 isnt anything embarrasing you should be proud i doesnt matter what age you are when you lose your virginity if its 16 or 30 all that matters is the person its with!
2006-10-03 10:08:33 · answer #11 · answered by tray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋