I am 20 years old, im TS and am hoping to transition in november, but my mum wants me to move out before i start, so i was wondering what things i should do and prepare for when i go. I am looking for jobs and places to live now, but its not as simple as that.
2006-10-03 08:24:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My mum isnt one for help, she has known about this for 3 years, and has pulled every trick in the book to try and stop me, but since she pushed me too far (the rope), i think she has backed off and is sort of letting it happen. I have near enough 2 months to leave, which should be plenty enough i hope. Transitioning early is what i was thinking, but i may have trouble with work as they seem to want their own time to prepare for things, and i dont want to tell them i am leaving until i have a job and/or a flat to go to.
2006-10-03 08:57:13 · update #1
The voice is the big thing--do you have that down yet?
If you do, then look for work like a phone center for sales or service where you can be heard and accepted, whether the body has gotten there or not.
If you don't, then go for back office type jobs where people don't particularly have to hear you.
I know one person who said, "When I started, I could only wash dishes, when I looked good I could clean tables, but when I could sound good then I could waitress." Good luck.
2006-10-03 09:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't help you with useful information, but I feel compelled to say "good luck, all the best, and I hope you find some competent and lovely people in your new life". Stick up for your rights as a complete human being.
I'm sure the staff at the operating theatre will have support groups and counselling provided. If they don't, they should !!
2006-10-07 10:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by MEAMEAMEA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if you need to move out and transition at the same time, difficult though that may be. Logistically it makes sense. Also, it's sometimes easier to make big changes all at once rather than dragging things out. Hoping you have a v v smooth transition and find wonderful, lovely people to hang out with! Take care, you.
2006-10-03 15:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Janet712inEngland 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Contact PFLAG (parents, friends, family of LGBT people. They will help you find organizations and local contacts to help you thru this. Maybe another person going thru transition could use a room mate..... It's a terribly expensive and time consuming period in your life and you need ll the support you can get. GOOD LUCK!!! If your mom is having trouble dealing with all this, there is plenty of help out there for her - people to talk to and info to read and meetings to go to.
2006-10-03 15:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by reme_1 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Start before you move out so that your new colleagues, when you get a job, and your landlord can accept you as your new "you"
If your mum cant support or respect your wishes thats a shame.
Ask her if she cant accept your new self before you move out then you have to believe she is too ashamed to accept a visit from you when you have moved out.
Your local council may be able to help you find somewhere to live and employers have to be equal opportunity employers.
2006-10-03 15:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Tarzan 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why leave your current job? Just get a flat down the road from your mum. No need to turn your whole life upside down.
2006-10-04 08:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by helen g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find yourself people like you to talk to who have direct experience with this. Try finding a Yahoo Group or message board...or better yet, a local support group. You will be challenged by this before, during and afetr the physical changes are complete. You must have a support system to provide you with the tools to be strong.
2006-10-03 17:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by donrull 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Before you start to transition, make sure you have a *stable place to live and a stable, secure job.* *Come up with a budget* so that you know what you're paying for bills and what you have left over for transitioning.
2006-10-03 15:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you can't get the support you need from your mum.Hope everything goes well for you.Good luck.
2006-10-04 02:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by michael k 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is ever simple - but good luck anyhow.
2006-10-04 05:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by ticklemonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋