2006-10-03 08:23:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
because the people that dish it out tend to be the least secure about who and what they are, so anything you say to them is completely devastating.
2006-10-03 08:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wounding words, including confidence-crushing criticism, nasty sarcasm, demeaning nicknames and careless gossip- can inflict deep and lasting harm in the form of hurt feelings, negative self-images, damaged reputations and destroyed relationships. Sadly, the victims often are family and friends.
Forget "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." Unless you've been a victim of physical violence, chances are the worst pains you ever suffered came from words.
Just be fair, respectful, and careful when we talk about others. What we say about a person affects attitudes and dispositions and shapes reputations in ways that indelibly define that person. Observing that you choose your clothes more carefully than you choose your words, I urge you to use your words as we would a loaded gun.
Be more conscientiously kind and careful in what you say. Emphasize the positive, avoid remarks likely to cause pain or other damage and say nothing you wouldn’t want to get back to the person you are talking about.
When people "dish it out" it could be caused by low self-esteem or insecurities. So being able to take it is not as easy as someone with a better self image or good self esteem. Even still we shouldn’t "dish it out" to others.
2006-10-03 08:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to dish it out at times usually with people I know well and that because I rather be honest with them. I can take criticisms well.
2006-10-03 08:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they're dishing it out in earnest, they're probably not seeing the joking friendliness when you return fire. Or...just how identical is your return fire? It may be that you're inadvertantly touching on topics in which they can't find any humor.
None of this stops you from calling them on their BS, but you wanted an explanation, so there's my best speculation.
2006-10-03 08:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really good question. Alot of people I know can relate. I know a few people who crack jokes, want to " tell the truth" .. but as soon as you flip it on them- they get all sentimental. I really do not know why. If you don't like it done to you-- then dont to it to other people. Maybe its a self esteem thing. They feel better joking on people... but get hurt & offended if it's done to them.
2006-10-03 08:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by Danny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure exactly but your point is true. Maybe they think they're so much better than everyone else and when someone gives it back it's a shock to the system.
2006-10-03 08:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are the ones that feel better by puttin other people down and then when someone comes along to tell them, they are pansys. They just do it to make themselves feel better and they can't take it because they have self pitty.
2006-10-03 08:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people like what you described are a rare occurance. I see more selfishness than selflessness in today's society. People are in this world for what it can give them, not what they can give the world. But then again, this is only my theory.
2006-10-03 08:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Oklahoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daniel is right.
although I do believe most of us are a little like this..I'll say I am a little bit like this first.. then we can all admit to it.. then we can clear our self's of hypocrisy..
hmmm..
2006-10-03 08:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by 1confused1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dish it Ill take it
2006-10-03 08:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by Dan the car man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋