Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and three months, and he still wont make any commitments. And were having a baby in 3 or 4 weeks.
2006-10-03 08:16:20 · 15 answers · asked by Babyxgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He should already know whether or not he wants to be with you. If he has some maturity behind him, I don't know how old you guys.
But I wouldn't push the issue right now, having a baby is enough to stress about on both of your parts. Let him take the time he needs if you really want to be with him, rushing him will only make things work for a minute and will back fire eventually.
Enjoy your time together, enjoy your time as a family. When the timing is right he'll make that commitment. If it's not ever right, move on that's all that can be done. Don't try and change him because that's not fair to either of you.
2006-10-03 08:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knocking you up was more of a commitment then any other thing you can get divorced but a baby is forever. He should have made that commitment before you got pregnant... There are things to prevent that now you know, I'd kick him to the curb if he's not going to commit to you and the baby.
2006-10-03 08:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by ice_princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should know within a few months. If you're talking for forever, like marriage, he might already know, but just not be ready to make that commitment. Guys are funny like that...consider that they do have some pressure (even in today's progressive society) to be the hero, to not be a failure; be that guy who can take care of the family and all...he doesn't want to let you down as a husband, so he's not going to jump unless he's got a tarp waiting to catch him. Ya dig?
2006-10-03 08:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 30 about 2-3 years. If you are under 30 about 5 years. Sorry you jumped the gun and got pregnant. Hope that doesn't end up being a big mistake.
2006-10-03 08:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends from person to person. But a baby usually commits you for 18 years to at least be a part of their life. Unfortunately it doesn't always mean that you are going to settle down and get married.. give him time and if it is right he will settle down with you. and if not your better off.
2006-10-03 08:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Virginia1228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your having this guy's baby, and he's not sure if he wants to be with you. and your having his baby?
so.. he's not sure about you two. but your pregnant. and having his kid? im sorry im just trying to comprehend here.. one more time:
your pregnant, his child, he hasnt decided if he wants to be with you. and your pregnant. with his kid. sigh.
im sorry, but grow the f*** up.
that child isnt going to keep him around. sorry, but its not. if anything it'll drive him further away, and being that he's already up in the air about it, it wont take much for him to ditch you and your child. leaving you alone, with his kid. im so sorry your in this scenario, you sound young. im terribly sorry. i dont know what else to tell you. a year and 3 months you've been together.. so you've been pregnant for 9 months out of the 15 you've been together.. whats done is done, what you have to do now is grow up, accept the responisibility of raising this child, without this dude. doesnt sound like he's gonna be around long anyways. im sorry your in this position, i really am. matters of the heart can make us do some pretty stupid things.
2006-10-03 08:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by knucklehed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By "be with you" you mean marry you? Or are the two of you just dating.
I would say at this point it is safe to say that you are more than just BF & GF considering there is a bun almost baked.
If you are talking marage there is no time limit.
2006-10-03 08:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit difficult because it's a team effort and if your pulling all the weight then it's just not worth it! and if your expecting a baby and the relationship is not working out, there's always childsupport! right?
2006-10-03 08:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have realized that he wasn't going to commit to you before you were going to have his baby. If he hasn't started yet, he won't.
2006-10-03 08:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's should take some time because guys think to themselves will i be able to deal with her forever or will she be able to put up with
all of my crap I don't won't hurt anymore I hope she don't leave me. Believe me it's hard for us male to adjust ourselves to one woman. Our thinking no more sex partys i confined to one lady which is fine. but we ask our selfs are we going be man enuff to say no when the time comes
2006-10-03 08:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by trueexposure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋