A friend of mine is feeling that her 17 years of marriage as a housewife may have been a waste. She now is feeling rather unneeded and unappreciated. She has a spotless house and is a very creative cook. But her 14 year old son's relationship with her seems to be dwendling. Her husband does not want her to work outside the home. For him, homemade dinners and desserts and a clean house is all that matters. But she's still feeling purposeless.
2006-10-03 07:52:51 · 12 answers · asked by Angel L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think being a housewife is one of the most important jobs you can have. Raising your children, taking care of your husband, and taking care of the house should be the priorities - in that order.
I think it is very important for the wife to provide a home-cooked and nutritious meal when the husband gets home from a hard day at the office She should feel proud of these accomplishments, but also her family is going to need to provide her the necessary affirmation. If they don't, she probably will feel as she does now.
2006-10-05 10:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by L.A. Scene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not entirely unnecessary, but they do not need to be home all the time, especially if they do not want to. being a housewife is much easier nowadays with vacums and dishwashers.
Why don't you tell your friend that a part-time job is an option. She could work like 9-12 and have plenty of time to care for her children and cook for her husband. She will also have some extra cash that she can save or splurge on herself!
personally, i dont think i could handle being a housewife and stuck at home all the time. it must be boring and lonely especially if her son is out of the house now.
if her husband still doesnt let her get a job she needs to explain to him that she needs more in her life than to stay home all the time.
She might even want to look into volunteering at her son's school.
2006-10-03 14:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A housewife is a thing of the past. A homemaker however is what today's families need more than ever. If she is unhappy with her relationship with her son then perhaps she should sit down with him and talk or even better for a teen she should listen. As for her feeling unneeded and unappreciated perhaps she should voice these feelings. If her feelings are ignored maybe she should stop cooking and cleaning and see how fast her husband realizes how much she does for him. As for purpose, that's easy The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints has always kept purpose in my life as well as giving me interaction, support and knowledge.
2006-10-03 15:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by bvml 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her husband had better go out and look at the real world. My wife works and I am retired. I am the new generation - A House Husband and I love it.
I may not do exactly as she did but I do the best I can around the house and try to prepare healthy meals and try to keep the joint clean. I suggest the guy go out and look around him. There are hardly any women at home anymore. A lot of them work jobs and very few stay at home. I know a lot of men that are home too.
2006-10-03 15:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, can I relate..I have that same problem..I just finally told my husband that I needed to get out and do something. He didn't really like it..but he doesn't have much of a choice..Tell her that if he won't let her get a job..maybe she can volunteer somewhere for a couple of hours each day..then should be some satisfaction...If she wants to do more then tell her to do what is going to make her happy..regardless of what her husband says..A marriage is only as happy as the 2 that are in it!!
2006-10-03 15:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not reading everyone else's answer because I am not up to negativity today. My answer is this:
There is no higher calling in a woman's life than to be called Mother. To keep a home, and raise a family, to nurture, to be that one constant who is always there, who lends a kind word, or a nice meal.......this wounded world needs more women who will do these things.
The world would be a better place if more women stayed at home.
2006-10-03 15:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she shold get a hobbie so she has some kind of purpose but housewifes should be respected they have 2 clean and make fancy dinners and ur 14 year old son is a teen he wont like her even if she was a model.
2006-10-03 14:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her son is 14, enough said. The lady needs to find something to do that gives her satisfaction, take some college classes, do some charity work, get a job, it's not about what hubby wants, that is not her purpose for life. Go for it girl!
2006-10-03 15:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by bubu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could pick up an internet business from home. Lots of homemakers also have small Ebay or Yahoo businesses. Maybe she could pick up a job that lets her work from home? (Medical billing and coding I think is from home, she may need to do some research to find some new ideas). She could also pickup a hobby like sewing, knitting, jewelry making and make homeade gifts for presents for xmas, or sell them on ebay or to her friends.
2006-10-03 14:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by ~Lacey~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a volunteer at a nursing home or hospital.
2006-10-03 14:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋