my husband and I have been fighting about money because i am taking care of all the bills and can't seem to make sure they are all paid. who do you think is better at taking care of money, men or women
2006-10-03 07:50:01 · 26 answers · asked by cowgirlbird55 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we all fight over money... you are not alone....
2006-10-03 07:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being a woman and i take care of bills in my house, i would have to say women are. But i guess the real question is are you making your ends meet. What really helped out our bills vs money is. Get rid of the little bills first, and if you have to consolidate your bills into one. I did this by using our home equity line of credit.
1st consolidate all ur bills on a low apr line of credit
2nd weed out the bills that have high interest
3rd pay all of your bills on time
4th pick a loan or payment that you have that is the least amount on it and peck away at it. Only leave alittle $ money for activities. Before you know it you will be less stressed with bills.
2006-10-03 14:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who is home more and how the rest of the chores are split up. Honestly I take care of the bills in and just about everything else in the house because my husband works alot..Every once in a while I miss a bill ...big deal..I just have to make sure that I have a special mail slot on my counter that I put all the bills in and I go through it once a week so I know what is due and when. If you have a day planner you could use that to right down due date or maybe a mark down a week ahead of when they are due so you can pay them on time..
2006-10-03 14:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up, my mom was the 'banker' of the house, even though my dad was the bread-winner.
In my house, it's me, since I am the primary wage-earner at this time. I know exactly how much is going in and how much is going out.
Give your husband the reins on this one for a couple of months, and see how he does. If he does well... well that will answer your question. If he doesn't, then both of you have to make some changes, but at least it will silence the critic in him, and get him off your back (personal experience here). Keeping written record of all bills to be paid, all bills paid, and account balances is a must. If not, you're bound to forget something costing your family tens to hundreds of dollars in fees, in addition to ruining your and your husband's credit.
2006-10-03 14:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by forourspam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a gender issue but what help me during the marriage was have separate accounts and divide the bills up fairly. In this way you divide the work of paying the bills but each need to be responsible for the bills assigned. In this way, you know what needs to be paid and when it is due.
2006-10-03 16:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it differs. some men are excellent and so are some women.
if both in a couple are bad, it is a disaster. try to decide who is better and let that one do it. if you cannot decide, flip a coin and let one have control. if the control leads to money problems, then switch to the other. if that does not do it, then you just need more money so get to work and make more.
it is imp[ossible to settle an argument between two partners unless you have set up a system before there is a problem.
Look at some partnership agreements in contracts at law library and you will find ways to resolve disputes.( if you cannot let one person have final word)
2006-10-03 14:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't seem to make sure they are all paid, then you should give the share the responsibility with your husband. No one is actually better. It it just that whomever is the most organized and goal oriented should take care of the finances.
2006-10-03 14:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by big_strong_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what...If you & you husband are arguing over money,
even if it is paying the bills. FIGHTTING OVER MONEY IS THE
#1 reason for DIVORCES now days.
There must be a reason he doesn't trust you with the money.
Just show him the reciepts of paid bills.
Why not let him try, do you not trust him.
Love, Trust & Communication are just a few things to remember
for a good marriage.
2006-10-03 15:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by tbrat2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is whoever is more diligent when it comes to money. If you are not paying the bills on time and he does I would pass it over. This isn't just a matter of male vs. female. This could also affect negatively on your credit.
2006-10-03 14:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't really a man or woman issue . . . the question is who's more responsible and can be depended on to make sure the bills get paid??
2006-10-03 14:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the one who handles the money in my household, because I'm better at managing and investing. My husband does not mind.
2006-10-03 14:55:11 · answer #11 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋