every time me and my b/f have sex i never climax. For a year and a half i had lied to him about getting off because i didnt want to hurt him or make him feel inadequate, talked to some friends they said stop lying, so i did, but i haven't told him that i had lied to him about it for that long. now i can only climax if i am doing it to myself, he always gets off, i dont know if there is something wrong with me(i have had bad encounters in the past) or what i can do to help him so he can get me off. i know he trys his best, ive run out of ideas. i am definatley attracted to him and he does usually do the right things, just isn't enough though. i try to tell him what i like but he always say that im criticizing him and bi***ing, im just trying to help. any ideas?
2006-10-03 07:49:15 · 3 answers · asked by WonderWhy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
try asking him to do this or that, or say "i really like it when you _______"..................instead of "telling him" what u like... either u are coming off a bit accusatory, or he is extremely closed minded and kind of a jerk =T......
the thing is, most guys can get off no matter what.... but for women it is more difficult. that is why it's so important for u guys to communicate; and i'm sure ur happiness is important to him.
1) if it's not, then u need to find a new man
2) if it is, then he'll try to do more things that u like, as long as u let him know he is still doing a good job.
good luck!!
2006-10-03 07:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to research not all women have orgasm during actual intercourse and since u said u have one by urself, so do it during foreplay, and let him do it to u.or help u do it (if he cares for u he will care that u will get the pleasure too)...he will like the intercourse better after u climaxed. all ur muscles will be tense...and u will have it over and over after that initial one... hope this helps, and hope my answer will not be deleted as this i think is educational for all women out there......
2006-10-03 07:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Lay back and let him go down on you. If he does something that feels good let him know by moaning, or grabing his head and pulling him closer to you. It may take awhile for you to get yours, but I bet he will be willing to go the distance.
2006-10-03 08:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋