Boyfriend his or her blessing to date me. I need some help in what I should say tpo end the friendship. Also this person said If i date my boyfriend without the blessing then they will be very mad at me for not considering his or her feelings. I do know this is wrong on the "friends" part, that is why I am wanting to end it. Anyone with easy ways to do this please let me know.
2006-10-03 07:48:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He(friend) has been doing this for about 6 months. I have had all I can take.
2006-10-03 07:53:47 · update #1
His email I just read said "NO BLESSING THEN YOU CAN'T DATE HIM I WILL MAKE SURE OF IT, TRUST ME"
2006-10-03 07:55:42 · update #2
How easy it will be to do this depends on you...everyone reacts differently. I tend to be pretty up front, I would say, "look man, I don't need your permission to date anyone, and if you feel I should consider your feelings, then maybe you should consider mine...personally I don't have time to deal with you being petty, life's too short, so just find a new friend, I have"
2006-10-03 07:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by Tom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by mic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend is a male, then its pretty obvious why he wants to give a 'blessing'. uhh- who the hell are you living your life for? you or your friend? who's happiness is more important to you, you or your friends? it sounds like this guy/girl cares more about what they want for than what you want for you.
tell this person that they dont make your decisions, that this is your life and your going to live it how you see fit. life is all about making decisions and growing from the results. as a friend, its their duty to tell you how they feel, but not what YOU should do. be true to yourself, i wish someone would have given me this advice a while ago. i sabotaged what may have been a relationship with the girl of my dreams because of outside interferences. i wonder what happened or what was said that this person feels as though your personal life has to go thru them first. sounds like a way crappy friend.
tell them that nothing positive comes from the friendship, you need a friend, not a military father. hope this helps, good luck on the relationship.
tell your friend to kick rocks.
UPDATE:: just read the additional details. your friend is jealous, he doesnt want you seeing another guy, in fact i'd be willing to guess your friend is secretly in love with you. 99% of the time, a plutonic relationship between the sexes usually carries a hidden agenda. your friend is a dude. he's your friend because he wants you. trust me, he wouldnt try and sabotage anything for you if it were any other way, if he truly cared about you, he'd befriend the guy your interested in rather deterring you from your own natural emotions. this dude sounds like a real character. ditch him, and ditch him hard. trust me, guys have their own guy friends who are their friends, girls pick up guy friends because they think the guy just wants to be friends... 99%, this isnt true. at the first opportunity he would be all over you. kick him to the curb, and kick him hard or else he's gonna feel empowered by this and it will continue to happen over and over again. kick him hard baby.
2006-10-03 07:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by knucklehed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKAY, well there is no easy way....just be honest with them. If this person is of the opposite sex, you might consider thier feelings for you. Maybe they really like you and want to be more than friends but just don't know how. Just sit them down and be honest with them. If they understand then good, if not, they will eventually.
2006-10-03 07:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by . . * h o n e y * . . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to end a friendship over this. It sounds like you have a friend that really values your friendship and has taken a role in protecting you. Take it for what it is and be glad she cares about you. She is also worried about being replaced and losing you as a friend, so be sure to keep her in your loop. Friends should be forever...
2006-10-03 07:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you've given yourself the blessing to end this friendship already.
2006-10-03 08:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them first. let them know that u appreciate their concern but you really don't like the idea of being attached to them this way- i mean; they are not your parents to give the blessing!
2006-10-03 07:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Alexandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree that you and your firend have issures. so i think you should tell her that certain things, like dating, you need to do yourself, without the consent of him/her. i don't htink you should ruin a friendship over it. but if htis does persist, after you tell her about what you think, then i think you should tell her that it isn't working with you two. and that you ahve grown in opposite directions.
2006-10-03 07:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what will it hurt if your friend gives his/her blessing , Its easier to find another boyfriend then a true friend.
2006-10-03 07:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by debbie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her/him that you feel you've outgrown the friendship and that you are able to make wise choices on your own.
2006-10-03 07:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋