I used to be friends with this girl, we had a HUGE fight. and we don't talk anymore. But we were so close before. Someone emailed me her myspace page. Should I email her?
2006-10-03 07:31:34 · 17 answers · asked by turners_pics 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Without knowing what the fight was about... well, let's assume that whatever it is that broke up the friendship is resolved, or no longer seems important. For whatever reason, you're interested in finding out if you and she can be friends again, so...
Most fights have two parents - in other words, both parties are partially responsible. So first, you need to decide how you feel about what happened, and why you want to be friends again, because that will drive how you interact with her now. Maybe you just want to put the whole thing behind you (assuming that the fight didn't come about because of something you did to her that you shouldn't have - in which case, it's apology time).
If face time's an option, you can't beat it. E-mails are easy to misunderstand, because you can't see facial expressions or hear the voice. Nothing wrong with looking her up, saying hello, and telling her you were thinking about her and wanted to see how she's doing. Best to do this when it's just the two of you, without an audience. You'll know pretty quickly if she's interested or not.
If face time isn't an option, then sure, e-mail. Unless there's an apology you need to make (in which case, I'd make it short, sincere and to the point - "I'm sorry, I was wrong" covers a lot of ground), just a short note, "Was thinking about U and thought I'd get in touch. How are you?" is fine.
You don't have any control over how she responds, however you do it. If you feel the need to know that you tried, however she responds, then do it. She may respond well, or she may not, in which case, well, you know you tried and can move on without any of those pesky "what if's" hanging around. Good luck!
2006-10-03 07:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a little time for you and her to cool off before you contact her. We all make mistakes. She and you both know that.
I really don't know how long you should wait because there's no definite answer to it.
It happened to me few times with a real close female friend I know for over 3 and 1/2 years. One time, we did not talk for 6 months after a fight. Now, we are beginning a relationship, and taking things slowly.
Hey, everything's going to be fine. Just cool off for a bit. Focus on something else, like your hobby. Then, when you feel about the woman in your instinct, open a conversation.
Good luck to you two.
2006-10-03 07:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by longtie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be in the same situation. if you think of all the times you guys were friends, and all the fun you've had, one fight will seem like nothing compared to how much fun you two had with eachother, especially if you two shared your childhood. If you really miss having her as a friend, just add her on myspace or call her up nd tell her you miss her or something along those lines. If you two were really good friends, she probably feels the same way, but is nervous too.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-03 07:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, as long as you are over what the fight was about. And are prepared to let it go if she doesnt email back. Might not work out, or you might end up with your friend back.
2006-10-03 07:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by katybeth212001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why not? Life's too short to not talk to someone, let alone someone you were once really close to. Tell her that the fight isn't worth losing your guys' friendship. If she doesn't want to talk to you, then at least you tried.
2006-10-03 07:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by marypaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sooo close i bet u miss that right? well just break down and tell her your sorry or watevr and be like i miss you your really specail 2 me and i dont wanna loose you! message her maybe even cal if you can it's not hurt anymore then how you feel now! if you love her and you want her back chase her and dont stop she will come around i hope everything works out for!! and good luck
2006-10-03 07:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by hotthangoxox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not....you guys should be over your fight by now or maybe start with an apology and laugh about your stupid fight (cause i think all fights are stupid)
2006-10-03 07:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should email her, I had a similiar situation, and emailed them so got ahead, the worse that can happen is she is still mad, it is not going to hurt to try. Just see what happens!
2006-10-03 08:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, it's always normal to have a fight, even husband and wife have fights..yeah email her
2006-10-03 07:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes email her let her know you are still thinking about her.
2006-10-03 07:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋