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Question

how would you handle a annoying neighbour without upsetting her

the problem is this person is always borrowing things from the using the phone to the tin opener' she will even come thou and use our oven even thou her oven is working perfectly infact its that bad she mite as well move in,,this has been happening over a 4 year span

Answer 1

Do you know all the facts of your neighbours income? As although it's annoying , using your oven and borrowing nearly your underwear lol what do you think he or she is doing this for , 1. Could be thier income is really low and they have to use cards to get heating and hot water , that means no gas the oven dont work? Simple as that I think , but also bloody annoying. I know as my neighbour and friend is very similar to your neighbour but my friend as been over 20yrs so its a little different , but still bloody annoying at times, as my friend can go out drinking but then no loo rools , I have had to hide my loo rools , a bit embarresing to admit , but I had too. 2. You sound a very soft hearted person , so in the beginning you did not mind but as time as gone by , it's like taking the piss now , taking advantage of your good nature. What I have had to do is lend as little as possible , I live with my partner so he deals with the milk borrowing and the tea bags, so a small drop of milk he gives and three t.bags, just to tie her over. 3. The phone now that does bug me so I say is it a 0800 number and if so I leave her use the phone once which was today she had to phone the gas to sort out no gas in her home I did.nt really mind that , but I asked her to do a wash and dry my bedding for me as a favour back and she did. I have gone harder as they say as time as gone by , I only moved in by her 2 and a half years ago, and you do feel used and like a shop, but try to get things back like asking to borrow some thing you may need one day , I know it will be hard to start but after the 1st few times , it,s kind of gets easier, you feel as if you are being walked over and used , try my method, you could even say now and again the phone line is down if your phone rings say , oh great it's back on if they are in the room at the same time I mean , do try and get a little strenth and just do your best, and try not to be toooooooo soft I'v been there it's horrid but you can harden up a little I did , go on give it a go, If they look in you cupboards well get a box put it in your bedroom and say gosh I have'nt done much shopping this week , it's f ing aweful to do , but you will feel better and you will feel less used , hey good luck , let me know how you get on , you could end up giving me a few more tips off cadgers ?????????????? love Debbie j

Answer 2

You need to learn to say no. There are ways to say it tactfully.
No, I'm going to be using it, sorry.
No, it's broken.,sorry.
No, I lent it to someone and didn't get it back, sorry.
No, I'm waiting for an important call, sorry.
I did have a neighbor like this, it had to stop as it was almost every day. You are not being rude, she is by taking advantage of your kindness.

Answer 3

oh dear! my neighbour used to be that bad in the end i stopped answering the door and told her i was busy all the time. she soon got the hint, a good friend of mine told me if you open the door and let her get away with it she will keep on coming. just ignore her she'll soon get the hint

Answer 4

you may have welcome above your eye brows but don't let people walk over you. When she comes to the door put your coat on and say you are just going out. Do this a couple of times and she will get bored. Then learn to say NO it has taken me a while but it does get easier honest

Answer 5

Think you should say no they are taking advantage of your kindness bit of advice given to me was best way to keep you neighbours is be friendly and keep them out of your house a bit harsh but true.

Answer 6

iv went through this before. give ppl an inch and they take a mile grr
way i got it stopped was anytime the door went and they asked me for anything id just say iv not got any. it doesnt work overnight but it WILL work i promise u.

Answer 7

ignore the door, i know that feeling completely, just pull your curtains, lamp on tv on and ignore the door, and when she asks the follwing day why you werent in say you had a hard day and was in the bath and didnt want to answer the door thats what i say

Answer 8

If it's been happening over 4yr then ignoring her will be hurt full,I think you should just be honest with her tell her things are getting on your nerves.

Answer 9

nendlen move away chic or move a new man in that might drive him away lol oh yea back to the question i think she fancys u

Answer 10

excuse me 4 years. get a grip what age are you dont hide from no one be honest tell her straight if she has any respect for you then she will understand how your feeling