Why do some men have the mentality of a two year old?

Question

My husband of 4 months is beginning to show his true self. He wouldn't go to a funeral that he wanted to go to, "because he wasn't invited". He won't watch TV in the living room, even when he and I are alone, "because my teenage daughters don't make him feel welcome there."(They love him to death, when he's not dragging everyone down with his TOO serious attitute). I misunderstood that he wanted me to pass him the butter at a Sunday gathering and he remained mad at me all through lunch and didn't even help himself to it when he passed it to someone else, and wouldn't eat his hot rolls "because they didn't have butter, because I must not have wanted him to have any". How do I handle this? If I tell him he's acting immature, he'll have his feelings hurt and deside that "I must not love him anymore and he needs to leave". This man is 45 years old.

Answer 1

Men don't like to hear this either, but he could use a relationship counselor. This man is acting in a very maladaptive way. This behavior is not going to lessen on its own. He obviously is convincing himself that he is unloved, I can not begin to guess his reasons without knowing more about him. Both of you should consider some counseling, but if you approach him with it I can not assume to know how he will react. If he cares about you he should be willing to try to change his attitude if he knows that he is hurting your relationship. I wish you both the best.

Answer 2

Often times after the marriage the real Frankenstein emerges....all of these little incidentals you've mention are warning signs...more behavior issues to come... AND they'll be bigger and stranger. He probably should be diagnosed by a Psychologist or a shrink, But take my word you can expect him to get worse before he gets better. The question you should ask yourself is if you've made a mistake, ( in marrying him) do you stay stuck with the mistake or correct the problem asap. He's given you some very telling information: When he's cried: " you don't love me any more I need to leave" Really, pay attention he's a volcano and when he erupts it could get really ugly for you & your daughters. He is dangerous and you should pay attention to the WARNING SIGNS!

Answer 3

This man is not immature, he is just set in his ways. When someone set in their ways is not invited somewhere, they aren't all of a sudden going to just break that and go uninvited, it's just that simple.

There has to be a reason he feels uncomfortable about your teenage daughters. Have you asked him WHY they make him feel that way instead of just seeing what's on the outside?

And the butter thing? To him, it was all about manners and miscommunication. He probably didn't help himself because he was passing to someone that had actually asked for the butter.

There are serious miscommunication issues with this relationship. And both of you are at fault. He needs to start telling you things, and you need to ask. If things are bothering him, ask why. Don't just assume that he is acting "immature".

And for the love of god, please stop generalizing an entire gender because of your experiences with ONE person. It's insulting.

Answer 4

So your husband of 4 months is acting like a two year old and you have let him. Now you don't want to upset him. Well you need to tell him to grow up and start acting like an adult or he will have to spend time in the time out corner.

Tell him to grow up and start acting like an adult. You should also tell him this is a marriage not a hotel.

Answer 5

I am a husband. Sounds like he is disgruntle about something? Sit down and be very warm and loving and ask him whats wrong? Or play a game with him: Ask him if there were 3 things in this household that he would change what would they be? Then you give your answers too and you will discover whats wrong.

Also, maybe he is having "male PMS". Or your aren't "satisfying" him enough. Watch some porn and get it on! All men like that unless they are gay.

Answer 6

He is not mad about the funeral,the teenage daughters,
or the butter.He's upset about something else.Something,
that to him is far more troubling.When he decides not to
watch tv in the living room,where does he go?What does
he do instead?This could be a clue.

Answer 7

Thank you SO much for posting this. You make me feel 100% better about my husband's imperfections and childish nature. Your husband is obviously competing for your attention. If my attention - no, if my LIFE - isn't completely put in second place to my husband's, he pulls this BS too. And I know how frustrating it is to have to pet his ego and make him feel like a "big boy" and then have to try to view him as a man in the bedroom. If you figure this all out, you are a blessed woman.

Answer 8

Sorry,but you have to tell him he's acting like a 2 yr old having major tantrums over nothing. If you don't confront the issue now,he's going to get even more like a spoiled brat who always wants his way. Is it really worth staying with him,if he's not going to change?

Answer 9

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Answer 10

He's not 45 he's only 5. Yes tell him he's being immature and to let it go. Tell him acting like a child will get him treated like a child.